Personal Growth

I Give Myself Permission To Be Happy With EFT

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Scientific studies have shown that each one of us has our own ‘happiness set point’. This means that no matter what happens to us, we are pre-programmed to return to a particular level of happiness within 12 months. So even if you have a tragic event happen, or an out of this world fabulous event, it is highly likely that within a period of 12 months you will return to the same level of happiness you were at before the event occurred.

This happiness set point is determined 50% by your DNA and 50% by your environment and your programmed responses to it. So you may have been fortunate enough, like myself, to come in with a happy disposition already present in your personality, or you may have been born with a more serious nature that finds happiness more difficult.

The good news is, that no matter what your DNA dictates, you have complete control over the other 50% of your level of happiness and you can reprogram yourself to be happy, no matter what.

There is a fabulous book by Marci Schimoff called “Happy For No Reason”. In this book Marci has interviewed 100 of the happiest people in the world to determine what the common underlying theme was for all these people. She then goes on to give practical tips and exercises to help you to raise your happiness set point and learn how to be ‘Happy for No Reason’. I highly recommend this book.

For most of us, we’re expecting our external conditions to all fall into perfect place before we are happy. We have made our happiness conditional. At first inspection, this seems perfectly reasonable and you’re probably wondering how on earth you can be happy if things aren’t going well for you. Well, the truth is, true happiness is unconditional. It comes from a place within us and is not reliant on external conditions to be present. It is already there, we just have to let go of all the crap that’s covering it up to feel happy.

Now I know you’re probably thinking, ‘But you don’t know what my life’s like. If you knew how much crap I’ve got going on, you’d know that I could never be happy.”  And I understand why you feel that way.

Many people are suffering some grave situations right now and it may seem impossible to be happy even when things look so grave. But believe me, it’s possible to be happy no matter what. It’s all about making a different choice and choosing to be happy regardless of whatever else is going on in your life.

I understand even the concept of this can be difficult to wrap your mind around let alone know how to achieve this utopian ideal of happiness and bliss regardless of what’s going on in your life. And no, I am not on drugs. Never have, nor will I ever take drugs to achieve an altered mind state because I know that I can do it without artificial aids and it’s sooooooo much better without all the lethal consequences.

The fact is that our brain is wired to focus on the negative and that’s what makes us unhappy. All of us have reasons to be sad, angry, frustrated, upset, overwhelmed, etc. The truth is everybody also has reasons to be happy, even when you feel like you don’t, and it’s the people who look beyond the negative stuff in their lives and focus on the reasons they have to be happy that are the happiest of all.

It’s not about ignoring the bad stuff, it’s about making it less important than the good stuff. You are supposed to feel good. And when you change the way you think, you can. It won’t happy instantly as you’re training your brain a new way of being, but it will all be worth it if you stick with it.

So following you will find an Emotional Freedom Technique sequence which, when used frequently, will help you to be happier more often and regardless of what’s happening in your life.

So firstly I want you to rate this phrase on a scale of 0 (not true for you) and 10 (the most true it could possibly be).

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

Karate Chop:

Even though I know I won’t be happy until all my problems are solved and things turn out the way I want them to, I choose to accept how my life is right now.

Even though I can’t be happy until my life is sorted and I get what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I’m never happy because my life sucks and I can’t imagine being happy with the problems I have, I accept how my life is and how I feel about it.

Eyebrow: My life sucks and I’ve got nothing to be happy about

Outside Eye: Everything’s wrong with my life

Under Eye: How could I possibly be happy with my life as it is

Under Nose: I don’t even believe happiness exists

Chin: How can it when everything is in the toilet

Collar Bone: I can’t see any reason to be happy

Under Arm: I’m always struggling and nothing works out

Top of Head: I have all these problems

Eyebrow: My life is in chaos

Outside Eye: I’ve got plenty of reasons not to be happy

Under Eye: If she took a walk in my shoes, she’d know why I can’t be happy

Under Nose: Every day is a struggle just to get through it

Chin: Even thinking about trying to be happy makes me sad

Collar Bone: I feel so sad by what’s going on in my life

Under Arm: I feel depressed when I look at my life

Top of Head: I am over being sad and unhappy

Eyebrow: But I don’t have a choice

Outside Eye: There’s no way I could be happy with they way things are

Under Eye: What a ridiculous idea

Under Nose: I can’t remember the last time I was really happy

Chin: Until my life improves, there is no way I can feel happy

Collar Bone: I have too much to be sad and angry and frustrated about

Under Arm: Don’t talk to me about happiness!

Top of Head: I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works

Now take a deep breath and go back and rate the statement:

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

Keep tapping on those phrases or ones that work for you until you bring that rating down to at least a 2 before moving on to the positive tapping phrase below.

Now take a few minutes to make a list of 10 reasons that you could be happy about. They don’t need to be earth shattering. Just choose some little things like the air you breathe, that you have a house to live in, that you woke up this morning, that it’s a beautiful day, that you have found EFT, that you are able to read this article. Simple, everyday things that you could be happy about.

Karate Chop:

Even though I still can’t image being happy because my life really sucks, I am open to feeling just a little bit happier right now.

Even though I have so many reasons not to be happy, I’m willing to look for reasons I could be happy and focus on those instead.

Even though I can’t remember the last time I was really happy, and no wonder considering all the crap that’s gone on in my life, I choose to relax and be open to finding reasons to feel even just a little bit happy.

Eyebrow: I have so many reasons not to be happy

Outside Eye: And I can’t imagine feeling happiness right now

Under Eye: Maybe I have some things in my life to be happy about

Under Nose: But there are many more reasons to be unhappy

Chin: What if I focused on the happy stuff

Collar Bone: Maybe I could feel a little bit happier

Under Arm: But the bad stuff is so overwhelming

Top of Head: What if I could be happy even with all this crap in my life

Eyebrow: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could feel happy right now

Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be just a little bit happy

Under Eye: Even though my life is such a mess

Under Nose: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now

Chin: I resolve to focus on the things I can be happy about

Collar Bone: I love knowing that underneath all these bad feelings

Under Arm: There is a happy me waiting to be discovered

Top of Head: I give myself permission to be happy no matter what

Eyebrow: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now

Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be happy right now

Under Eye: I love the thought of feeling happy no matter what

Under Nose: Even though I’ve still got heaps of reasons to be unhappy

Chin: I’ve also got plenty of reasons to be happy

Collar Bone: I choose to focus on those and allow myself to be a little bit happier

Under Arm: I love feeling good about myself and feeling happy inside

Top of Head: I have so many reasons to be happy and I choose to focus on those.

And take a deep breath and rate the statement again:

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

The more you work with this kind of EFT tapping sequence, the better your life will appear to be and the happier you will be.

Take care and happy tapping.

Marguerita Vorobioff

Money Can Buy Happiness

That’s right! I am going to go against the trend and tell you that the age old belief that ‘Money can’t buy happiness’ is a myth and you need to vanquish it from your memory and your programming forever.

The obvious argument for the original statement that ‘money can’t buy happiness’ is clear. Happiness comes from within, and there are plenty of wealthy and successful people who are unfulfilled and desperately unhappy. I am not disputing that for a second.

And I’m not talking about being able to buy more ‘stuff’ that will make you happy. This is a recipe for disaster and will pretty much guarantee failure in your pursuit of happiness as more stuff is simply another distraction from what you really need which is personal fulfilment on all levels: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

My position in this debate is this: it’s not that money can’t buy happiness, but that money doesn’t necessarily buy you happiness. Money can most definitely buy you happiness when you are spending it wisely in ways that will help you to rediscover happiness.

Happiness is a state of being that exists within us regardless of our situation, it’s just that more often than not it has paled into insignificance because of all the stress, worry, anger, fear, frustration, sadness, guilt, shame, overwhelm, etc, etc, etc. It’s not that we aren’t happy, it’s just that the happiness has been swamped by a multitude of other negative emotions. The happiness is still inside us waiting to rise above all the other conditions.

So, if this is true, how can money buy happiness?

Well, what is the best way to release all your negative emotions to rediscover your true inner peace and happiness? Healing, personal development and reconnecting with who you truly are!

And what is almost essential to help you experience the most powerful form of healing and personal development? Money!

Sure, we all have within us everything we need to be our beautiful, magnificent, awesomeness and share it with the world. However, in my experience, it can be almost impossible to raise your head out of the emotional quagmire to be able to reach that place inside on your own. Having someone to guide you to that place inside of you and help you release all the other crap is so much more effective and efficient.

And there are plenty of incredible healers and specialists available who have made it their life’s work to do just that. The fact of the matter is that they charge money for their services, and rightly so. And the more well known they are, the more money they charge.

It’s important to note that just because they are more well known, doesn’t mean they are necessarily the best. It just means they have marketed themselves more effectively to be seen as the expert.

Money will also give you the time freedom you need to be able to spend it focusing on your healing and personal development to realize true and lasting happiness.

 

And if you have money, you can invest it in acquiring the tools, information and resources you require to live a life of purpose, passion and fulfilment.

 

So in fact, money will never be the source of your happiness. Having a constant in flow of money will help you feel financially secure, but it is the way you utilise the money that will ultimately assist you in rediscovering your true state of joy and happiness.

 

Money is a tool that gives you access to everything you need to engage in a fulfilling and satisfying life. So do whatever you can to eliminate your negative belief systems around money. It’s time you gave yourself permission to be successful and wealthy and do whatever you came here to do so the rest of the world can benefit!

10 Tips for Making 2012 Great

Most people have given up on, or conveniently forgotten their NY resolutions by the 15th of January each year. How are you going with yours? If you have given up in resignation, or if you didn’t make any resolutions because you have not stuck to them before, it’s never too late to re-affirm your commitment and start again.

Here are some tips to keep you inspired to achieve your goals this year:

  1. Identify what area of your life you really want to improve and get really clear about how you want it look. Be very specific about where you are now and where you want to be.
  2. Focus on just one or two major goals for the year. It’s better to achieve one or two things that will really make a difference to your life than make lots of goals and never reach any of them.
  3. Make your goals achievable – It’s great to challenge yourself, but if you bite off more than you can chew, then your probably never going to get started, or will give up quickly, because the reality of it is so overwhelming.
  4. Form them in a way that is inspiring for you. e.g. If you want to lose weight, don’t just state “I want to lose 5kg”. This is not very inspiring. Find a favorite outfit / piece of clothing, in your wardrobe that you haven’t been able to fit into and make it your goal to fit into it by a particular date. Or have a particular event in mind and make your goal to wow your friends at the event in a new outfit. Or wearing your swim suit during summer with confidence. I think you get the idea.
  5. Chunk your goals down into shorter term goals. e.g. 12 months, 6 months, 3 months, 1 month, 1 week, 1 day.
  6. Write all your goals down and keep them in a place where you can see them and remind yourself of what you are committed to achieving this year. This is even better if done as a vision board.
  7. Identify what new habits you need to adopt to get you there and keep you there.
  8. Uncover and let go of whatever belief systems have been blocking you from achieving this in the past. You will have to if you want real change.
  9. Review your goals regularly and adjust them as you need to.
  10. Get a coach or somebody whom you are accountable to and report to them on a pre-arranged regular basis and make sure they are not going to allow you to make excuses and let you off the hook. Accountability is key to your success at achieving anything.

Anthony Robbins says there is the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. Which do you choose to experience this year?

EFT for Forgiveness

Forgiveness

Energy is precious. It is the essence of everything, including us. And energy directed somewhere is spent and unavailable to be directed somewhere else. If you spend energy in worry, fear, anxiety, guilt or shame, it is not available to help you create a better future for yourself and others.

Many of us spend more energy blaming ourselves or others for our failures and lack of success. No matter how validated we feel in this pursuit, this is time and energy wasted in a pointless activity that will not achieve anything. It won’t make us feel better and it certainly won’t change the situation.

What if we could forgive ourselves and others unreservedly, take responsibility for our results, and redirect that energy to creating a difference in our lives and in the lives of many others?

With EFT, you can release yourself from negative emotions that drain your energy and stop you from realizing your goals and dreams, thereby giving you the freedom to achieve greater and greater things that could not only transform your life, but the lives of many others as well.

The following EFT sequence will help to release you from shame, guilt and blame so you can get on with being successful and wealthy.

First rate the statement “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve” on a scale of 0 to 10. This statement can relate to what your expectations of you, as well as others expectations of you.

Set Up Phrase

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I can’t forgive myself for all the times I have failed and made mistakes, I deeply and completely forgive myself.

Even though I feel ashamed about my failures and all the times in my life I have made bad choices, I profoundly love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I have done some things and made some choices that are unforgiveable, I choose to deeply and completely love and forgive myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I am so ashamed of the number of times I have failed
Outside Eye: Nobody has failed as much as I have
Under Eye: I’m so disappointed with myself
Under Nose: I don’t think I can ever forgive myself for being such a huge failure.
Chin: I’ve really let myself down
Collar Bone: And I’ve let other people down
Under Arm:
Because I haven’t tried hard enough
Top of Head: I don’t deserve forgiveness
Eyebrow: Because sometimes I’ve been lazy
Outside Eye: And I haven’t always given my best
Under Eye: I haven’t followed through
Under Nose: I haven’t been true to my world
Chin: I haven’t been true to me
Collar Bone: I’ve sabotaged myself so many times
Under Arm: I truly can’t forgive some of the mistakes I’ve made
Top of Head: I haven’t lived up to my expectations
Eyebrow: And I haven’t lived up to the expectations of others
Outside Eye: I’ve made some stupid mistakes
Under Eye: I’ve squandered so much time and energy on meaningless activities
Under Nose: When I should have been focusing on the things I had to do to achieve my goals
Chin: I feel ashamed of some of the poor choices I have made.
Collar Bone: I don’t feel good enough to be wealthy and successful.
Under Arm: I can’t possibly forgive myself when I’ve made so many mistakes.
Top of Head: I don’t deserve to be forgiven because I’ve failed to live up to mine and everybody else’s expectations

Now return and rate the statement: “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve”. If the rating has come down to a 2 or below, then continue on to the positive tapping round. If you haven’t come down that far yet, just keep tapping with the phrases above, or ones that are more appropriate and specific to your situation until you have.

Positive Tapping:

Karate Chop:
Even though I still have this feeling that I deserve to suffer for being such a failure, I choose to love and forgive myself anyway.

Even though I still feel like my laziness / inefficiency / lack of focus is unforgivable, I deeply and completely love and forgive who I am and how I feel.

Even though I don’t know how I’m ever going to forgive myself for being such an under achiever when I have so much potential, I choose to forgive myself anyway and use that energy to move forward with confidence and enthusiasm.

Eyebrow: I have been lazy and inefficient and I haven’t been focused enough
Outside Eye: But I choose to acknowledge that I’ve been doing the best I can
Under Eye: Even if I feel it’s not good enough
Under Nose: Just because I haven’t achieved all my goals yet
Chin: Doesn’t mean I’m a bad person or a failure
Collar Bone: It just means I have some subconscious programming that is stopping me
Under Arm: It’s not really all my fault
Top of Head: And now that I recognize it, I choose to forgive myself
Eyebrow: I could have achieved a lot more by now if I’d had the right subconscious programming
Outside Eye: But it’s okay because I can start to turn that around right now
Under Eye: And the first thing I choose to do is forgive myself
Under Nose: I choose to have compassion and understanding for myself
Chin: I choose to be kind to myself
Collar Bone: I am a good person, I just need to adjust a few things
Under Arm: After all, success is a learning process.
Top of Head: And I love to learn new skills and information
Eyebrow: I choose to forgive my lack of results
Outside Eye: And know that I am capable of achieving whatever I put my mind to.
Under Eye: I just need to adopt the right subconscious programming
Under Nose: And I’m starting to do that right now
Chin: I choose to be proud of the fact that I haven’t given up
Collar Bone: I can’t fail until I give up
Under Arm: I choose to have compassion and understanding for me
Top of Head: And I choose to forgive myself for not achieving my goals yet and focus enthusiastically on reprogramming my subconscious to have a successful and wealthy mindset.

Again rate the statement: “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve”. Keep tapping until you bring the rating right down to zero.

There may be other things you need to forgive yourself for that you feel ashamed and guilty about which makes you feel unworthy to be successful and wealthy. Perhaps you did something to someone that was not very nice and hurt someone. Or maybe there’s something you didn’t do, that you feel you should have done. You may need to ask another person for their forgiveness which can be extremely healing and release you from terrible burdens. There are dozens of reasons why we end up on a permanent guilt trip which saps our energy and prevents us from feeling worthy of realizing our dreams.

EFT is capable of eliminating all of those negative feelings that are draining your energy and preventing you from living to your full potential. Adopt EFT as a part of your lifestyle and use it everyday and your life will be transformed in a relatively short amount of time.

Take care and Happy Tapping.

Get Out Of Your Own Way

I spend a lot of time writing and talking about the subconscious and how it controls 96 to 98 percent of our results. This is because once you learn how to change this programming, and are committed to working at it consistently, your results will change so dramatically, it is like night and day. First you will find your behaviour changing and you will be aware of more opportunities coming into your life. You will take action that is congruent with achieving your goal and people and resources will turn up in your life like magic.

Hence the saying, ‘Get out of your own way’. You are the only person who is in charge of your results. Once you realise this and become aware of the behaviour and habits that aren’t serving you and are keeping you stuck, then you will really begin to move ahead in leaps and bounds.

This takes discipline and a willingness to do the things ninety-five percent of people won’t do so you can have what ninety-five percent of people will never have. And, unless you have an instant enlightenment experience like Byron Katy or Eckhart Tolle, this is a journey that takes time and dedication, it will not happen overnight. I’m not saying you have to meditate for 10 hours every day for the next 50 years to finally get it. We live in extraordinary times and we have the opportunity to shift our awareness incredibly quickly if we choose. However, it will take some effort on your part.

Why are willing to spend time, money and effort to avoid our feelings and ultimately perpetuate our pain, such as unhealthy levels of addictions to things like television, the latest technological toys and games, alcohol, sport, work, legal and illicit drugs, but the opportunity to spend 30 minutes a day healing and discovering our potential comes last, if at all?

Why haven’t we been taught to embrace all of our feelings, especially the uncomfortable ones, so we can discover the truth behind them so they lose their power over us? We give our power away to our fear, anger, grief, sadness, frustration, etc when we refuse to feel them fully and discover the truth within these feelings.  We take our power back when we choose to experience every aspect our beautiful existence and feel everything fully. We become awakened in that moment and all of a sudden those uncomfortable feelings are seen for what they are: merely responses to a belief system or perception about our world or ourselves.

Feelings have no life of their own, they only exist because of your response to a particular situation. And where one person might thrive on the adrenalin and excitement of performing in front of a crowd of 10,000 people, somebody else might prefer to die than take the risk of humiliation and rejection. Of course, if that latter is you, then public speaking might not be your chosen vehicle for making your dreams come true, at least not this right this minute.

Once you become a master of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, you become a conscious creator. Suddenly you have the ability to choose appropriate responses in every situation of your life instead of being at the mercy of your emotions.

Have you ever been in the middle of an argument and suddenly you have the thought ‘Why am I so angry and why am I taking it out on this person’? I certainly have, and the more aware you become, the more this occurs, until you are able to actually stop the unconscious response before it occurs. It is not the event itself that defines it’s meaning in our lives, but our response to it. And rarely, if ever, is it the particular circumstance that is the cause of our response. The event is merely a trigger which activates an automatic response within us, depending on previous experience and belief systems, formed usually in the first 6 years of our lives.

For example, a person who has had a history of betrayal or abandonment in their life, may feel particularly jealous if their partner is looking at someone of the opposite sex in, what they determine, is an inappropriate manner. Even if the other person is the most loyal and devoted person on the planet and has never shown any signs of betrayal, they respond from what they expect to occur. Because they have been betrayed or abandoned previously, they are expecting their partner to do the same and they perceive their over eager appreciation of another person as a betrayal, even though they have done nothing wrong.

We are all human, and just because we devote our lives to one person does not mean we automatically become robots incapable of appreciating the beautiful form of another human being. In fact this is perfectly healthy behaviour. What is not healthy is the over reaction of the person who immediately goes into fear of being betrayed, and angrily accuses the admirer of being unfaithful.

This is how our subconscious works. It looks for situations to prove our programming right. So we look for situations and events that will substantiate our model of the world. If we believe we don’t deserve to succeed, or it’s not safe to be successful, we will draw to us events and circumstances, and behave in ways that substantiate those beliefs and sabotage our success. And there may be hundreds or even thousands of those negative beliefs lurking in your subconscious, quietly working away and keeping you bound within your self imposed limitations.

It is your job to disentangle yourself from these belief systems and disable them so they don’t sabotage your success. This is why energy psychology and vibrational healing techniques are now becoming so popular, because they have the ability to quickly eliminate these beliefs so we can form new ones.

You need to be dedicated though, because your subconscious has formed these belief systems in an attempt to protect you and keep you safe. It is not likely to just show you what they are so you can get rid of them. You need to outsmart your subconscious and engage it to be your assistant in this process rather than your enemy.

And your emotions are your greatest ally in this quest. Become aware of your feelings in every moment and you will quickly discover what fears and beliefs you are holding onto that are stopping you from being the best you can be and living the life of your dreams.

I have found this is a fascination journey of discovery and, though difficult at times, highly rewarding. And the greatest reward is success. Following is an EFT Sequence to help you to get out of your own way.

Karate Chop Point

Even though I am my own worst enemy, I deeply and completely accept all of me

Even though I am responsible for all of my results in life, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have been the one holding myself back and stopping myself from succeeding, I deeply and profoundly love and accept all of me.

Inside Eye: I’ve been sabotaging myself all this time

Outside Eye: I should have known

Under Eye: I’ve allowed my emotions and belief systems to control my life

Under Nose: I feel powerless to take control of my life and realize my dreams

Chin: I should have known better

Collar Bone: I’m afraid to realize my true potential

Under Arm: I have all this conflict about success

Top of Head: I’m afraid to step out of my comfort zone

Inside Eye: It doesn’t feel safe

Outside Eye: What if it doesn’t work out?

Under eye: I’m afraid I’ll be disappointed

Under Nose: Actually, I’m afraid I’ll fail

Chin: I have all these negative beliefs about becoming successful

Collar Bone: It doesn’t feel safe to succeed

Under Arm: I don’t believe I deserve to succeed

Top of Head: I have all this conflict about success, no wonder I can’t realize my goals and dreams

 

Positive Round:

Karate Chop:

Even though I still have this conflict about success, I’m ready to transform and transcend all negative belief systems that are preventing me from realizing my goals and dreams.

Even though I’ve been sabotaging myself all along, I’m ready to get out of my own way and do whatever it takes.

Even though I’m responsible for where I am right now, I choose to forgive myself and get on the fast track to success and wealth.

Inside Eye: I’ve been sabotaging myself all along

Outside Eye: And now I’m willing to do whatever it takes to succeed

Under Eye: Even if I have to get out of my own road, it will be worth it

Under Nose: I choose to take my power back and feel strong

Chin: I choose to transform and transcend all my negative belief systems about wealth and success

Collar Bone: I’m ready to release all my negative belief systems about wealth and success

Under Arm: Even if it means I have to feel uncomfortable for a while

Top of Head: I choose to know I have everything within me that I need to succeed

Inside Eye: I’m armed and dangerous and I’m not afraid to use it

Outside Eye: I’ve been holding myself back all along

Under Eye: And it’s time for me to break free and charge toward success

Under Nose: I choose to release myself from all old limiting beliefs that don’t serve me

Chin: I live in the truth that I have whatever it takes to have what I want

Collar Bone: I love knowing I have everything I need to succeed within me

Under Arm: I choose to know I do deserve wealth and success

Top of Head: And I love knowing I have everything within me I need to succeed and be wealthy

You Deserve to Be Wealthy

How are your finances right now? Do you have the freedom to do everything you want and more? If not, then the reason is not the global economy. It’s not your families’ fault. It’s not your employers’ fault. It’s nobodies fault, not even yours, but it is your responsibility to change it.

Your personal economy is not at the mercy of any outside influence, and you have the ability to thrive under any economic conditions. More fortunes are made during times of depression than any other for those who put themselves in a position to take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves.

It depends on your subconscious programming, whether you believe it’s safe and right for you to succeed and whether your belief systems (BS) support that you deserve to succeed. But if you have any belief that there isn’t enough, that your not good enough, that something bad will happen if you succeed, that you don’t deserve success or wealth, that money is evil, that only criminals get rich, rich people are greedy / arrogant / uncaring or some other negative belief system, then your subconscious will never allow you to be wealthy or successful.

And unless your BS’s support you being wealthy and successful, you are living your life based on lies. You deserve to have everything you wish for and so much more. And the following EFT sequence will give you a big boost in the right direction.

There are hundreds, even thousands of reasons that you might subconsciously sabotage your success and it all stems back to your childhood and your ancestors belief systems around money and success as well as your experiences as you grew up. It’s impossible to get to the root of all your belief systems in one session. It is your responsibility to be consistent at uncovering what is holding you back. But the following EFT tapping sequence will help to shift your vibration and start the ball rolling and, if you use it often, you will find your belief systems coming up to show you what you need to clear in order to be successful and wealthy beyond your wildest dreams.

If you aren’t familiar with EFT Tapping then please visit my website www.healingandabundance.com where you can access a tutorial teaching you this simple yet powerful transformational technique.

Firstly, repeat the statement “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams”. Now rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could be for you.

And now follow this tapping sequence.

Karate Chop Point:

Even though I don’t believe I deserve to be wealthy and successful, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I keep sabotaging my financial freedom, I choose to love and accept myself and believe that I do deserve better.

Even though money and life is always a struggle for me and I don’t know how to change it, I choose to love and accept all of me.

Eyebrow:   Money is always a struggle for me.
Outside Eye:   My family has always worked hard for money
Under Eye:   And we could never get ahead
Under Nose:   That’s just the way it is for us
Chin:   We’re good, honest, hard working people
Collar Bone:   And honest people never get ahead
Under Arm:   That’s just the truth about life and money
Top of Head:   All wealthy people are greedy and waste money on frivolous things

Eyebrow:   And I would never like to be like them
Outside Eye:   So I never want to be wealthy
Under Eye:   It’s not right that I should be wealthy when so many other people, including my family never have enough
Under Nose:   Because the truth is, there is not enough to go round
Chin:   If I have more, somebody else has less, and I couldn’t live with that
Collar Bone:   Besides, money can’t buy happiness, that’s what my family taught me
Under Arm:   I should be satisfied with what I’ve got
Top of Head:   Besides, it’s safe where I am, even if I am struggling

Eyebrow:   I won’t know who I am if I’m wealthy and successful
Outside Eye:   And my life will change completely, and I couldn’t have that
Under Eye:   I’m better of just struggling and working hard
Under Nose:   My family showed me that that’s they way it’s supposed to be for us
Chin:   And I don’t want to betray my family and friends
Collar Bone:   What will they think of me?
Under Arm:   What if they don’t like me anymore?
Top of Head:   No, it’s definitely not safe for me to be wealthy and successful, so I’m going to stay right where I am

Take a slow, deep breath and again repeat the phrase “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams”. Rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10. The number should have improved at least a little bit.

Now it’s up to you to do some more in depth inquiry into why you aren’t wealthy and why you feel you don’t deserve to be. Have a look over the previous tapping phrases again and pull out the ones that are most true for you. I have covered a whole range of different belief systems there, but there are hundreds of others that may also pertain to you.

How do you feel about deserving to be wealthy? Life being a struggle? Being able to be frivolous with money? And think about why you would feel that you are undeserving? Think back to when you were about 5 or 6. How did your parents interact about money? Were they constantly working, struggling, stressing out and never getting ahead? Were there arguments about money? What did they think about rich, successful people? How would they react if you walked in the house being really wealthy and successful, driving an expensive sports car and wearing expensive clothing / jewellery? How would your friends react?

Are you starting to see where our subconscious could be a web of belief systems all intertwined that keep you stuck in your current reality?

So, once you’ve explored what’s holding you back and tapped until you have the rating around the phrase “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams” up to at least an 8, try the positive tapping round below and notice how different you feel.

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I still have this feeling that money has to be a struggle, I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.

Even though I have been holding myself back from being financially free, I deeply and completely accept myself and am open to new possibilities to attract more money into my life.

Even though I’m still holding onto these belief systems that are preventing me from being financially wealthy, I choose to believe there are hundreds of ways money could come to me and be open to receiving it.

Eyebrow:   I choose to believe that I deserve to be financially wealthy
Outside Eye:   I choose to know that there are hundreds of ways money could come to me
Under Eye:   I choose to give myself permission to be massively wealthy
Under Nose:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Chin:   I choose to believe in every fibre and cell of my being that it is safe for me to be wealthy and successful
Collar Bone:   I choose to release myself from worrying about what others are going to think about me
Under Arm:   I love being financially free and being able to be frivolous with money
Top of Head:   I choose to release myself from all the anxiety and stress around my money
Eyebrow:   I am so grateful for all the opportunities coming to me to help me receive more money
Outside Eye:   I choose to give myself permission to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Under Eye:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve success and financial wealth
Under Nose:   I love the thought of having more money than I could ever need
Chin:   I love thinking of all the good things I will do and people I will help when I have more money than I could ever need
Collar Bone:   I choose to release myself from all the negative belief systems that have held me back from money and success now
Under Arm:   I am even feeling excited about what the future holds for me financially.
Top of Head:   I love knowing that I deserve to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams and that it is safe for me to receive lots and lots of money.

If you want to see real lasting results, you will need to keep tapping on the various belief systems that you see coming up, including these ones consistently. And if you do, you will quite quickly see your life and your wealth transform and magic will happen.

Happy tapping.

You Deserve To Have More Fun

Do you ever feel like you’re on a never ending Ferris Wheel with an exhausting revolution of eat, sleep, work and stress, trying to keep with the endless list of ‘have to’s’ and trying to meet everybody elses’ expectations? Do you feel overwhelmed by responsibility?  What ever happened to actually living? Having some ‘you’ time? Fun? Laughter? How long ago was it that you really got to relax and have fun?

If you feel like this, then you are not alone. Most of the population feel trapped on this endless monotonous spinning wheel, often not knowing how they even got there, let alone how they’re ever going to get off.

Societies expectations drive us to outcomes that may not actually be what we really want, but by default we have been led to believe that being part of the ‘norm’ will make us happy. How many people do you know who are living the ‘norm’ who are truly happy and satisfied with their lives? If you can name one person, I will congratulate you.

In my experience, it is only those people who have the courage to jump off that spinning Ferris Wheel and go against societies expectations who ever really get the opportunity to realize fulfilment and lasting happiness. I’m not about to tell you it will be a soft landing if you do decide to jump either. However, there is no challenge that you cannot overcome, the trick is to believe that you deserve to be happy, successful and fulfilled doing whatever it is that you want to do.

So today I am sharing with you a new EFT tapping sequence to help you to develop that belief within yourself. You see, the moment you believe you deserve to have fun, you will naturally allow yourself to have more fun and more situations will eventuate that will be naturally enjoyable. You will also find that many of those situations that you previously found mundane or even frustration, you will start to enjoy more and smile more at the little annoyances that crop up. Yes, it is possible to genuinely smile in the face of frustration and irritation. It’s called lightening up and not taking everything so seriously.

If you aren’t familiar with EFT Tapping then please visit my website www.healingandabundance.com where you will can access a tutorial teaching you this simple yet powerful transformational technique.

Firstly, repeat the statement “I deserve to relax and enjoy myself and have fun”. Now rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could be for you.

And now follow this tapping sequence.

Karate Chop Point:

Even though I never have any time to relax and have fun, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I am overwhelmed with responsibilities and never have time to enjoy myself, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though my life is too stressful and there is no way I could possible find time to have any fun, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow:   I have too much to do and not enough time.
Outside Eye:   My life is so full of responsibility & stuff to do
Under Eye:   I never have any time to have fun
Under Nose:   There’s no way I could ever possibly enjoy myself
Chin:   I don’t deserve to have fun, I have too much to do.
Collar Bone:   It would be so nice to just relax and have a laugh
Under Arm:   But I don’t have any time for that
Top of Head:   There’s always too much to do and never enough time

Eyebrow:   I’m so tired of all this responsibility and stress
Outside Eye:   When did my life become so busy?
Under Eye:   I didn’t expect life to be this complicated.
Under Nose:   I don’t even remember when it stopped being fun.
Chin:   I would really like to relax and really enjoy life more
Collar Bone:   When to I get to actually LIVE?
Under Arm:   I feel so overwhelmed with responsibility
Top of Head:   And there’s never enough time for me to relax and really let my hair down.

Eyebrow:   Life is just too busy and that’s the way it’s supposed to be
Outside Eye:   At least, that’s what I learnt when I was a child
Under Eye:   Life is supposed to be a struggle with no time for fun
Under Nose:   And I don’t deserve to actually enjoy myself
Chin:   It would be so nice to just be able to relax and let go for a change
Collar Bone:   But that’s never going to happen for me
Under Arm:   I have too much to do and never enough time
Top of Head:   Life is supposed to be a struggle, and I know because I’ve proved it over and over, and I’m still proving it!

Take a slow, deep breath and again repeat the phrase “I deserve to relax and enjoy myself and have fun”. Rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10. The number should have improved at least a little bit.

Now do some more in depth inquiry into why you don’t have fun and why you feel you don’t deserve to. Have a look over the previous tapping phrases again and pull out the ones that are most true for you. How do you feel about deserving to have fun? Life being a struggle? Being able to relax? And think about why you would feel that you are undeserving? How did your parents feel about having fun? Were they constantly working, struggling, stressing out and never having fun? How did they respond when you were having fun?

If you aren’t having fun in your life then you have a program in your subconscious that says it’s not safe, or you don’t deserve to, or it’s not right, etc. And whatever it is, IT’S A LIE! Your task is to uncover the belief around this that is stopping you from having fun and dissolve it. Just think if the whole world was having more fun what a different place it would be.

So, once you have gotten the rating around the phrase “I deserve relax and enjoy myself and have fun” up to at least an 8, try the positive tapping round below and notice how different you feel.

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I don’t give myself permission to have fun, I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to relax and enjoy myself.

Even though I have all these responsibilities and no time for fun, I deeply and completely accept myself and am open to enjoying my life more and having more fun.

Even though I’ve not allowed myself to have fun for years, I choose to open up to having more time to be frivolous and enjoy my life from this point on.

Eyebrow:   I choose to believe that I deserve to relax and have fun
Outside Eye:   I choose to trust that everything is working out perfectly and I don’t have to worry so much anymore.
Under Eye:   I choose to give myself permission to relax and have more fun.
Under Nose:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to have more fun and freedom in my life.
Chin:   I choose to believe in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to have more time for me to have more joy.
Collar Bone:   I love having fun with family and friends
Under Arm:   I love to laugh
Top of Head:   I choose to release myself from all the anxiety and seriousness around my responsibilities.

Eyebrow:   I love lightening up and being amused by the situations I find myself in.
Outside Eye:   I love knowing that the more I release my anxiety, the better I am at finding solutions to challenges.
Under Eye:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to have more fun and freedom in my life
Under Nose:   I give myself permission to enjoy my life in all ways and have more fun.
Chin:   I choose to stop taking life so seriously and to see the light side of everything
Collar Bone:   I love finding more opportunities to relax and enjoy myself with friends and family
Under Arm:   I already feel lighter and brighter about my future
Top of Head:   I love knowing that I deserve to relax and have fun and enjoy all areas of my life.

Just because you see the lighter side of life doesn’t mean you will abandon your responsibilities, however you will find you are more creative and less likely to get overwhelmed with stress and anxiety about various aspects of your day to day responsibilities. To be honest, most of what we worry about either never eventuates or is not nearly as desperate as we imagine.

And remember, if you want to see real lasting results, you will need to keep tapping on various belief systems, including these ones consistently. And if you do, you will quite quickly see your life transform and magic will happen.

Happy tapping.

Take Your Power Back With EFT

Do you feel powerless? Hopeless? Like there’s no point putting a lot of effort into your future because it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to? Do you feel as if you have no control over your own life?

The truth is we have been conditioned to give our power away to people and situations in our lives for centuries. We carry this disempowerment in our cellular memory from past lives, past generations and from our current history. Because we don’t know any better, we allow it to dictate our present moment and the outcomes of our future by giving our power away. And often we give up because having given our power away, we feel powerless, disempowered, hopeless. It feels like there’s no use.

Can you relate to any of those feelings?

If you want different results, it’s time to take your power back. Time to take charge of your life and be the captain of your own ship and create your own destiny by design, instead of default. Don’t allow other people, events and outside influences to dictate how successful and happy you are. To do so makes you a victim to circumstance and as long as you are being a victim, you will be at the mercy of life.

Taking your power back does not mean you have to dis-empower or bully others. It means being confident in your own being and not allowing external situations to influence the decisions you make or actions you take in your own life. It is up to you to decide what is for your highest good and define your life accordingly.

There will always be outside events and people that affect our lives, but the ultimate outcome for you is determined by how you respond to those.

So think for a moment where you have given your power away. There will probably be several areas where you have allowed yourself to be disempowered and possible hundreds even thousands of events that have occurred. Choose the memory that feels the most intense when you think about it.

How does it make you feel to know you gave your power away? Sad? Angry? Frustrated? Disappointed? Powerless? Hopeless? Weak?

The following EFT tapping script is going to focus on the feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness, however, you can substitute any of the above feelings, or others that may be more appropriate for you to do the tapping. And if you have several feelings around this, then keep doing the EFT until you have got them all down to a 1 or a 0.

Make the statement: “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.” Rate the truth of that statement on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could possibly be.

Now tap along on the points with the following script, substituting different words and phrases that are more appropriate to your circumstances if you need to.

Set Up – Karate Chop Point

Even though I have given all my power away to this situation, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I feel so disempowered because I allowed it / them to take my power away, I choose to love and respect myself anyway.

Even though I gave my power away and have been left feeling hopeless and powerless, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Tapping Through the Points:

Eyebrow: I feel so powerless

Outside Eye: I gave all my power away to this situation / person

Under Eye: I gave up even trying because it feels so hopeless

Under Nose: It’s not fair that they took away all my power

Chin: And I was stupid to let them

Collar Bone: I didn’t stand a chance

Under Arm: They were too powerful for me

Top of Head: They completely over ran me and made me feel powerless

Eyebrow: No wonder I haven’t been able to be successful

Outside Eye: I should have known better

Under Eye: I should have been stronger

Under Nose: It’s just hopeless

Chin: There’s no way I can succeed

Collar Bone: I let them run all over me

Under Arm: This situation / person completely took all my power away

Top of Head: And there have been many other times too

Eyebrow: I’ve got no power left because I gave it all away

Outside Eye: I feel so hopeless and disempowered

Under Eye: How am I ever going to succeed when people and things stop me

Under Nose: Why do I keep giving my power away?

Chin: They / this took all my power away from me

Collar Bone: It’s not my fault

Under Arm: I feel completely powerless and hopeless

Tope of Head: And there’s no point trying because I don’t have the power to succeed

Now, take a deep breath and again say out loud “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.” and rate the truth of that statement on a scale of 0 to 10.

You may need to focus more on the negative to bring the feeling down to a at least a 1 or a 2 before proceeding. Again, say it the way it is. How you are feeling and what is appropriate for you. The more you get in touch with your own feelings, the more effective this is going to be.

Now we are going to do a positive round of tapping.

Set Up Statement – Karate Chop Point

Even though I still feel this sense of powerlessness and it makes me feel really sad, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.

Even though I gave my power away and have been held back all these years because if it, I profoundly love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I allowed them / it to take my power away, I choose to love and accept myself and know that I have been doing my best all along.

Tapping Through The Points

Eyebrow: How could I give all my power away like that?

Outside Eye: That was just stupid

Under Eye: And now I choose to forgive myself

Under Nose: And take my power back

Chin: I choose to know I can take all my power back right now

Collar Bone: I choose to take control over my life

Under Arm: I didn’t know any better before

Top of Head: And that’s ok

Eyebrow: Because now I choose to take my power back

Outside Eye: I choose to be captain of my own ship

Under Eye: If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me

Under Nose: I’ve had some set backs

Chin: But everybody has those

Collar Bone: I choose to know I can over come anything

Under Arm: I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I can achieve anything.

Top of Head: I choose to know in my physical being and my etheric being that I am infinitely powerful

Eyebrow: And I can achieve anything I set my mind to

Outside Eye: I choose to take all my power back right now

Under Eye: I love feeling powerful and knowing I am in control of my destiny

Under Nose: They / It doesn’t have any power over me any more

Chin: Because I choose to take all my power back

Collar Bone: And take positive action toward my goals

Under Arm: Even if it doesn’t turn out perfectly straight away

Top of Head: I know I have the power to eventually achieve anything I want and I love feeling my infinite power and knowing I am capable of achieving anything I set my mind to.

Take a deep breath and again rate that statement: “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.”

Keep assessing your feeling of powerlessness / hopelessness in the days to come. If a situation comes up where you feel powerless then tap again. You will probably find more feelings and aspects associated with your feelings of powerlessness that you haven’t explored yet.

Remember, you are a work in progress, and everything is perfect right now, and it will take time for you to heal deep wounds that have occurred during this life time and others so you can reach the point that you are living to your full potential and living the life of your dreams.

Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, be patient and expect miracles and magic in your life.

Take care and happy tapping,
Marguerita

What Would You Do If You Knew You Could Not Fail?

Life! Good, bad or indifferent, we are all participating in it. So, how’s it going for you? Do you feel like the captain at the helm, or rather like a feather on the breeze, pulled this way and that, at the mercy of whatever life throws at you?

The truth is, we are all, to some extent, subject to the changing nature of life and what it throws at us. We cannot control every aspect of our lives and if we believe we can then we are deluded. What we can control is our responses to situations and the degree to which we allow life’s events to determine how we live our lives.

‘Failure’ is a nasty word in our language that is used to label and demean and criticise the efforts of others (and ourselves). It is something that paralyses many of us and stops us from trying to achieve our hopes and dreams because of our fear of failure.

Like it or not, life is going to continue to change, move, evolve and happen around us. And the truth of the matter is that the only failure that exists is the failure to participate.

Life is filled with challenges. Many of us consider this to be a bad thing and yet challenge is what helps us to grow and experience and achieve things that we would not achieve otherwise. So are you allowing challenges and the fear of failure to paralyze you and keep you stuck? Or are you willing to think outside the square, get out of your comfort zone and find solutions to those challenges rather than blame them for your current state of affairs.

If we choose to blame events or other people for our circumstances we become victims to life. Blame puts us in a position of powerlessness and takes away our ability to find satisfactory solutions to problems. Life is not defined by the problems we have, but how we choose to meet those problems. The greatest achievements arise out of adversity.

So, as long as you continue to participate, YOU CANNOT FAIL. Sure, you’re going to make some mistakes along the way.  That is all part of the process. You cannot succeed unless you make mistakes. Provided you learn from them, with each mistake you make, you are one step closer to success.

And sometimes success is just one more failure away. How will you know unless you keep trying? There is a terrific saying, “It is better to try and fail than to fail to try”.

So, what’s going to be better for you? To stay a victim, blaming everybody and everything else for your situation, and ultimately never have the opportunity to realise your dreams? Or to keep trying until you succeed and realise your dreams. Because that’s the truth of it. If you don’t give up, you are destined to succeed.

Wishing you success, freedom and happiness,
Marguerita Vorobioff

What Does Personal Development Mean To You?

Personal Growth and Personal Development has become an enormous industry helping individuals in various ways to go that extra mile and get closer to their goals and dreams.

You all know I don’t think new levels of success in any area of your life is possible without investing in some form of Personal Development on a daily basis. But with an industry that offers such a broad range of products and services, are the lines getting blurred? Does anybody really understand what personal growth means anymore? Is it different for each individual or is there one strategy, technique, philosophy, set of rules that fits everybody?

For me, Personal Development is any practice that helps us to grow in a positive way emotionally, mentally and spiritually, and expand our consciousness to become more aware so we can live as conscious beings, having a positive impact on all the people we meet and interact with. It’s all about self realization that enables us to express our true magnificence and be more successful in every area of our life, in whatever way that looks like for us.

Personally I believe there as many different personal development techniques and strategies that work as there are people on the planet. And this is the way it must be. Every single person on the planet is unique and has a different set of belief systems, emotional and behavioural patterns and subconscious programming that are as distinctive from everybody else as their fingerprint.

Sure there are some coaches, techniques and programs that have a significant impact on a large percentage of the population. Two of the techniques that I have found most universally effective are EFT and Sound Healing. They work specifically on releasing blocks within your energy system and altering your vibration to align with what you want in your life.

And even then, there are many different ways to employ even these two techniques to enhance their effectiveness. Each person being able to find their own unique style that works specifically for them.

Personal Development is not something you can pick up once a month, or once a year, and expect to see significant progress. We see that with the variety of weekend workshops people attend from time to time, and leave all energised, enthusiastic, ready to conquer the world. This lasts all of a week before the reality of their life sets in and they return to their state of homeostasis, because there is no ongoing effort to change a lifetime of habits, belief systems, behaviours and emotional baggage.

No matter how powerful your method of choice, if you want to see significant long term results, then you must commit to a daily practice with a firm intent to make significant changes in your life, one day at a time. This should be at least 30 minutes in length and it must be reviewed regularly to make sure it is still the best practice for you.

If you are consistent and commit to your practice every single day without fail for 30 days, you will start to see results. You may even see significant changes in this time. After 90 days, your whole world will surely be transformed. Often in ways you never even imagined.

So, if your life isn’t perfect, grab some personal development books, go to seminars, check out online information, listen to podcasts, learn as many new techniques as you can, webinars, teleseminars, whatever you can get your eyes, ears and hands on so you can find what works best for you. Some will not work for you. But how do you know what does until you try them?

And above all, remember to have fun! Life is too short to get bogged down in taking yourself and your situation too seriously. As bad as things may seem, there is a blessing in every circumstance, you just have to look for it.

If you would like to find out more about Personal Development, EFT, Sound Healing and Raising Consciousness, then I invite you to register for my newsletter and free gifts on the right hand side of this article.

To Your Success,
Marguerita