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I Give Myself Permission To Be Happy With EFT

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Scientific studies have shown that each one of us has our own ‘happiness set point’. This means that no matter what happens to us, we are pre-programmed to return to a particular level of happiness within 12 months. So even if you have a tragic event happen, or an out of this world fabulous event, it is highly likely that within a period of 12 months you will return to the same level of happiness you were at before the event occurred.

This happiness set point is determined 50% by your DNA and 50% by your environment and your programmed responses to it. So you may have been fortunate enough, like myself, to come in with a happy disposition already present in your personality, or you may have been born with a more serious nature that finds happiness more difficult.

The good news is, that no matter what your DNA dictates, you have complete control over the other 50% of your level of happiness and you can reprogram yourself to be happy, no matter what.

There is a fabulous book by Marci Schimoff called “Happy For No Reason”. In this book Marci has interviewed 100 of the happiest people in the world to determine what the common underlying theme was for all these people. She then goes on to give practical tips and exercises to help you to raise your happiness set point and learn how to be ‘Happy for No Reason’. I highly recommend this book.

For most of us, we’re expecting our external conditions to all fall into perfect place before we are happy. We have made our happiness conditional. At first inspection, this seems perfectly reasonable and you’re probably wondering how on earth you can be happy if things aren’t going well for you. Well, the truth is, true happiness is unconditional. It comes from a place within us and is not reliant on external conditions to be present. It is already there, we just have to let go of all the crap that’s covering it up to feel happy.

Now I know you’re probably thinking, ‘But you don’t know what my life’s like. If you knew how much crap I’ve got going on, you’d know that I could never be happy.”  And I understand why you feel that way.

Many people are suffering some grave situations right now and it may seem impossible to be happy even when things look so grave. But believe me, it’s possible to be happy no matter what. It’s all about making a different choice and choosing to be happy regardless of whatever else is going on in your life.

I understand even the concept of this can be difficult to wrap your mind around let alone know how to achieve this utopian ideal of happiness and bliss regardless of what’s going on in your life. And no, I am not on drugs. Never have, nor will I ever take drugs to achieve an altered mind state because I know that I can do it without artificial aids and it’s sooooooo much better without all the lethal consequences.

The fact is that our brain is wired to focus on the negative and that’s what makes us unhappy. All of us have reasons to be sad, angry, frustrated, upset, overwhelmed, etc. The truth is everybody also has reasons to be happy, even when you feel like you don’t, and it’s the people who look beyond the negative stuff in their lives and focus on the reasons they have to be happy that are the happiest of all.

It’s not about ignoring the bad stuff, it’s about making it less important than the good stuff. You are supposed to feel good. And when you change the way you think, you can. It won’t happy instantly as you’re training your brain a new way of being, but it will all be worth it if you stick with it.

So following you will find an Emotional Freedom Technique sequence which, when used frequently, will help you to be happier more often and regardless of what’s happening in your life.

So firstly I want you to rate this phrase on a scale of 0 (not true for you) and 10 (the most true it could possibly be).

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

Karate Chop:

Even though I know I won’t be happy until all my problems are solved and things turn out the way I want them to, I choose to accept how my life is right now.

Even though I can’t be happy until my life is sorted and I get what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I’m never happy because my life sucks and I can’t imagine being happy with the problems I have, I accept how my life is and how I feel about it.

Eyebrow: My life sucks and I’ve got nothing to be happy about

Outside Eye: Everything’s wrong with my life

Under Eye: How could I possibly be happy with my life as it is

Under Nose: I don’t even believe happiness exists

Chin: How can it when everything is in the toilet

Collar Bone: I can’t see any reason to be happy

Under Arm: I’m always struggling and nothing works out

Top of Head: I have all these problems

Eyebrow: My life is in chaos

Outside Eye: I’ve got plenty of reasons not to be happy

Under Eye: If she took a walk in my shoes, she’d know why I can’t be happy

Under Nose: Every day is a struggle just to get through it

Chin: Even thinking about trying to be happy makes me sad

Collar Bone: I feel so sad by what’s going on in my life

Under Arm: I feel depressed when I look at my life

Top of Head: I am over being sad and unhappy

Eyebrow: But I don’t have a choice

Outside Eye: There’s no way I could be happy with they way things are

Under Eye: What a ridiculous idea

Under Nose: I can’t remember the last time I was really happy

Chin: Until my life improves, there is no way I can feel happy

Collar Bone: I have too much to be sad and angry and frustrated about

Under Arm: Don’t talk to me about happiness!

Top of Head: I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works

Now take a deep breath and go back and rate the statement:

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

Keep tapping on those phrases or ones that work for you until you bring that rating down to at least a 2 before moving on to the positive tapping phrase below.

Now take a few minutes to make a list of 10 reasons that you could be happy about. They don’t need to be earth shattering. Just choose some little things like the air you breathe, that you have a house to live in, that you woke up this morning, that it’s a beautiful day, that you have found EFT, that you are able to read this article. Simple, everyday things that you could be happy about.

Karate Chop:

Even though I still can’t image being happy because my life really sucks, I am open to feeling just a little bit happier right now.

Even though I have so many reasons not to be happy, I’m willing to look for reasons I could be happy and focus on those instead.

Even though I can’t remember the last time I was really happy, and no wonder considering all the crap that’s gone on in my life, I choose to relax and be open to finding reasons to feel even just a little bit happy.

Eyebrow: I have so many reasons not to be happy

Outside Eye: And I can’t imagine feeling happiness right now

Under Eye: Maybe I have some things in my life to be happy about

Under Nose: But there are many more reasons to be unhappy

Chin: What if I focused on the happy stuff

Collar Bone: Maybe I could feel a little bit happier

Under Arm: But the bad stuff is so overwhelming

Top of Head: What if I could be happy even with all this crap in my life

Eyebrow: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could feel happy right now

Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be just a little bit happy

Under Eye: Even though my life is such a mess

Under Nose: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now

Chin: I resolve to focus on the things I can be happy about

Collar Bone: I love knowing that underneath all these bad feelings

Under Arm: There is a happy me waiting to be discovered

Top of Head: I give myself permission to be happy no matter what

Eyebrow: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now

Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be happy right now

Under Eye: I love the thought of feeling happy no matter what

Under Nose: Even though I’ve still got heaps of reasons to be unhappy

Chin: I’ve also got plenty of reasons to be happy

Collar Bone: I choose to focus on those and allow myself to be a little bit happier

Under Arm: I love feeling good about myself and feeling happy inside

Top of Head: I have so many reasons to be happy and I choose to focus on those.

And take a deep breath and rate the statement again:

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

The more you work with this kind of EFT tapping sequence, the better your life will appear to be and the happier you will be.

Take care and happy tapping.

Marguerita Vorobioff

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EFT For Unconditional Love

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What if you could love yourself unconditionally? How would your life be transformed? How would your relationships be transformed?

Loving yourself is the ultimate key to your freedom as it is the condition that underlies your feelings of self-worth, the quality of your relationships with yourself and others, your level of success, your depth of happiness, your health and wellbeing, and pretty much every other aspect of your life.

If you find that a little hard to swallow, just imagine loving yourself no matter what. How would your feelings about yourself change? How would your behaviour change? Where would your feelings of self-worth be? How would those things affect each area of your life?

Love is the very essence of who we are, and once we reconnect with that unconditionally, every negative feeling, behaviour, condition or event in our lives pales into insignificance. It does not mean that we will not experience difficult times, but they will no longer define who we are because we will be in love with all of it. Hard to imagine isn’t it?

Well, using the following EFT sequence regularly will help you to move more and more into a state of unconditional love for yourself and others.

First, rate the following statement on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it is not true for you at all and 10 being that it is 100% true: “I completely love every part of myself and my life unconditionally.”

Unlike most of the set up statements I use, this time the desired outcome is to get as close to 10 as possible, not zero.

Now use the following EFT phrase to increase the rating.

Set Up

Karate Chop:

Even though I can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally, I deeply and completely accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I have too many faults and imperfections to be truly loveable, I choose to accept myself as I am right now.

Even though someone like me doesn’t deserve to be loved unconditionally, I profoundly accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I really can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally

Outside Eye: I have too many imperfections

Under Eye: I could never be good enough to deserve unconditional love

Under Nose: Unconditional love isn’t for people like me

Chin: I’ve got too many bad qualities

Collar Bone: Nobody could ever love me unconditionally

Under Arm: Even me

Top of Head: You have to earn unconditional love

Eyebrow: And I’m not good enough

Outside Eye: I’ve done too many bad things

Under Eye: I don’t deserve that kind of love

Under Nose: I don’t even believe unconditional love exists

Chin: Even my parents couldn’t love me unconditionally

Collar Bone: They withdrew their love all the time when I didn’t please them

Under Arm: And even if it did exist

Top of Head: I wouldn’t deserve it anyway

Eyebrow: I can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally

Outside Eye: I’m just not that loveable

Under Eye: I have too many faults and imperfections

Under Nose: Only people who are perfect deserve unconditional love

Chin: And I am so far from perfect, I can’t even see the horizon

Collar Bone: I could never love myself unconditionally

Under Arm: Never in a million years

Top of Head: I have never done anything to deserve being loved unconditionally, even by me.

Take a deep breath and go back and rate the statement “I completely love every part of myself and my life unconditionally.” It should have shifted a bit. Now, regardless of where that rating is, proceed to the positive tapping round.

NB: I have used the word God in the following sequence, however, I am aware that some people are not comfortable using this word as there may be a negative feeling around it for some. If it doesn’t work for you, then please use any word that works for you – e.g. Divine, Source, Universe, Universal Energy, etc.

Karate Chop:

Even though I still can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally, I choose to be open to the possibility that I am loveable.

Even though I don’t believe I deserve unconditional love, I am willing to consider the possibility that I could love myself more than I do now.

Even though unconditional love needs to be earned, and I am not good enough, I choose to be open to embracing new possibilities about loving myself unconditionally.

Eyebrow: God / Source / The Universe loves me unconditionally

Outside Eye: I’m a pretty good person when it comes down to it

Under Eye: Maybe I’ve been judging myself too harshly

Under Nose: What if I don’t have to earn unconditional love

Chin: It would be nice if I could love myself no matter what

Collar Bone: It would be nice if love didn’t depend on what I did

Under Arm: What if real love isn’t judgemental or conditional

Top of Head: And what if I could just allow myself to be loved like that?

Eyebrow: Better still, what if I could love myself like that?

Outside Eye: I wonder if it’s possible to love myself unconditionally?

Under eye: I don’t have to earn God’s love

Under Nose: So it doesn’t make sense that I have to earn my love.

Chin: What if I could just love all of my imperfections

Collar Bone: I love the thought of loving myself just the way I am

Under Arm: I choose to love all of me just as I am right now

Top of Head: Even with all my faults and imperfections

Eyebrow: I choose to love myself like God does

Outside Eye: I choose to know that unconditional love is the essence of who I am.

Under Eye: And if love is who I am, than I do not need to earn love

Under Nose: Just because some of my actions are not loveable

Chin: Doesn’t mean I am not loveable

Collar Bone: Unconditional love fills my heart and sustains me

Under Arm: I am complete unconditional love

Top of Head: I choose to embrace my eternal essence and love myself unconditionally.

Eyebrow: Because the truth is there is nothing I can do that would make me unlove-able.

Outside Eye: Because my actions do not define me

Under Eye: Love defines me

Under Nose: It always has and it always will

Chin: And the more I love myself unconditionally

Collar Bone: The more I will love others unconditionally

Under Arm: So I choose to embrace and love all of me including my imperfections.

Top of Head: I love feeling unconditional love for myself, just like God / Source / The Divine does.

Take a breath and rate the statement “I completely love every part of myself and my life unconditionally.” Keep using this tapping sequence every day for 2 weeks and notice how differently you feel about yourself and how it redefines your relationships with others. Other people will start to respond to you differently. The people in our lives can only reflect how we feel about ourselves.

Use this theme on a regular basis for your tapping and notice how your heart begins to open and your relationships change, including your relationship with yourself.

Happy Tapping.

Marguerita Vorobioff

You Must Break The Rules If You Want To Succeed

From the time we are introduced to this world, we are taught to conform. We are rewarded by the people who are the most influential in our lives if we adopt their way of thinking, the patterns of behaviour they exhibit, their judgements, values, ideals, etc.

We are over regulated with rules within rules within rules that are designed to control our behaviour and make us into good little conformists, so people, authorities and governments know what to expect from us and they don’t receive any nasty little surprises by having us actually challenge their way of thinking, feeling or being in the world.

We are conditioned to fear thinking and behaving differently because there are “consequences”. Most of us don’t even understand consciously what these apparent consequences might be, it’s just inherited thinking that they are there, threatening any innate desire we might have to explore new realms and possibilities and ways of being in the world.

Sadly, most of us aren’t taught to think for ourselves, but adopt the thinking of others who have survived with their way of thinking and believe that it is in your best interests to think and act the way they do. We develop physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually through modelling.

And we also adopt their dysfunction and limitations as well. Largely we become carbon copies of the people in our environment. Instead of being encouraged to think for ourselves and discern what works for us and become individuals free to express our own unique brilliance in the world, we are largely punished for ‘breaking the mold’ and becoming our own person.

It is possible to break free of this conditioning. It was said by a close relative that Steve Jobs “Didn’t think the rules applied to him”. And he expressed himself in a way that redefined the way we live today by not allowing everybody else’s definition of possible and impossible to influence his thinking. It also meant he could be anti-social and fly in the face of authority against regulations that are put there actually to protect us, not just to control us. It’s smart to play by the rules that serve us, and be ready to break down and reject those that don’t.

All the leaders, inventors and super successful people in the world have, in one way or another, found a way to break out of conformity and break the rules that don’t serve their purpose.

Leading edge innovative organizations like Apple, Google, Facebook, IBM, Microsoft, Virgin, Nintendo and many other technology based companies have transformed many aspects of our lives and actually altered our behavior through their audaciousness and refusing to be captured within the web of the structured systems we hold onto so vigorously.

Obviously, it is in our best interests to be respectful of those around us and behave in a way that does not threaten the well being of any living creature. But there are many rules, many of them unwritten, and secretly passed down to you through generations of compliant people who don’t dare to challenge the system, that are begging to be broken, and must be broken, if you are to succeed.

Below is an EFT tapping sequence that will help you to break free of limitations adopted during your earliest years through conditioning and not be frightened to break the rules that are holding you back from being the best you can be and living to your full potential.

First rate the following statement on a scale of 0 to 10. ) being that it’s not true for you at all and 10 being the most true it could possibly be for you: “I’m afraid to break the rules in case I have to suffer the consequences”.

Now go through the following tapping sequence:

Set Up:

Karate Chop Point:

Even though I’m afraid to break the rules because there might be consequences, I deeply and completely accept the way I feel.

Even though I have this fear about breaking the rules in case it gets ugly, I profoundly love and accept all of me.

Even though I’m afraid to be unique and different and break the rules because I know there will be consequences, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I was taught to follow the rules

Outside Eye: And I’ve been a good rule follower

Under Eye: I’ve done what I was told

Under Nose: And it’s worked for me so far

Chin: People know what to expect

Collar Bone: And I know what to expect

Top of Head: I’m actually afraid to break the rules

Eyebrow: It’s better for everybody if I conform, including me

Outside Eye: I feel safe when I follow the rules

Under Eye: They taught me not to express my individuality

Under Nose: And to follow the rules

Chin: Everybody’s happy when I follow the rules

Collar Bone: My families rules

Under Arm: Societies rules

Top of Head: The Governments rules

Eyebrow: There are so many rules

Outside Eye: I’m tired of following the rules

Under Eye: But what about the consequences if I don’t

Under Nose: Bad things will happen if I don’t follow the rules

Chin: And I’ll get into trouble

Collar Bone: That’s why I’m afraid to break the rules

Under Arm: I don’t like getting into trouble

Top of Head: Even though I’m really limited by all these rules

Eyebrow: I choose to follow them anyway

Outside Eye: Because I’m afraid to break them

Under Eye: It’s not safe to break the rules

Under Nose: Or challenge the system

Chin: Because there are consequences

Collar Bone: And I’m not prepared to suffer the consequences

Under Arm: It’s just easier and safer if I stick to what I know

Top of Head: I’m afraid to break the rules in case I have to suffer the consequences.

And take a deep breath and rate that statement: “I’m afraid to break the rules in case I have to suffer the consequences”. I it has come down to a 2 or below then move onto the positive tapping round. Otherwise, keep tapping with these phrases or ones that you feel are more appropriate for you and your situation, until it’s come down to a 2 or below before progressing.

Set Up:

Karate Chop:

Even though I still have this fear about breaking the rules, I’m ready to challenge all my old programming and express my own unique brilliance to the world.

Even though there might be consequences if I don’t conform the way I was taught, I choose to break free of these limiting rules and be uniquely me in every way, free to discover my full infinite potential.

Even though I don’t feel safe challenging the system and all the rules I was taught to follow, I’m ready to break the rules anyway and surprising everyone by achieving way beyond all of their expectations and mine.

Eyebrow: I’m ready to break free of the rules that no longer serve me

Outside Eye: I’m tired of being a conformist

Under Eye: I’m prepared to suffer the consequences of breaking the rules

Under Nose: So I can be free to be me

Chin: I love the thought of being free to be all of me

Collar Bone: Even if it means I’m going to shock some people

Under Arm: Even if some of my family and friends don’t won’t me to

Top of Head: I’m tired of being limited by all these rules

Eyebrow: And I refuse to allow myself to be limited by them anymore

Outside Eye: It feels so liberating and exciting

Under Eye: When I think about breaking out and being uniquely me

Under Nose: And doing things that are unexpected

Chin: And living to my full potential

Under Arm: I have allowed myself to be bound by these rules for long enough

Top of Head: And it’s worth upsetting people to realize my goals and dreams

Eyebrow: If people don’t like it, then that’s their problem

Outside Eye: I love the thought of being free to be me

Under Eye:  I feel so liberated and excited about the possibilities

Under Nose: Now I know I don’t have to follow all of their rules

Chin: I refuse to allow their rules to prevent me

Collar Bone: From living to my full potential anymore

Under Arm: I am ready to break out

Top of Head: And go way beyond everybodies expectations

Eyebrow: And way beyond my expectations

Outside Eye: I’ll probably cop some flack from people who want me to stay where I am

Under Eye: But I don’t want to be where they are

Under Nose: I’m ready to fly in the face of convention

Chin: And show everybody what I’m really capable of

Collar Bone: By being the best I can possibly be in every part of my life

Under Arm: I feel liberated and excited about breaking all the rules

Top of Head: That have been holding me back all my life from living to my full potential

And take a deep breath and rate that statement: “I’m afraid to break the rules in case I have to suffer the consequences”.

Keep tapping until the rating has come down to a zero.

And if you do fly in the face of convention, you are going to experience resistance from all over the place from people who truly believe they have your best interests at heart by bringing you back to where they are. The question is do you really want to be where they are? Has it been working for you so far? What do you really want out of life?

Would you prefer to live as an under achiever like the people you have modelled, or would you prefer to be a Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, breaking convention and living to their full potential and making the world a better place?

It’s your choice!

EFT for Forgiveness

Forgiveness

Energy is precious. It is the essence of everything, including us. And energy directed somewhere is spent and unavailable to be directed somewhere else. If you spend energy in worry, fear, anxiety, guilt or shame, it is not available to help you create a better future for yourself and others.

Many of us spend more energy blaming ourselves or others for our failures and lack of success. No matter how validated we feel in this pursuit, this is time and energy wasted in a pointless activity that will not achieve anything. It won’t make us feel better and it certainly won’t change the situation.

What if we could forgive ourselves and others unreservedly, take responsibility for our results, and redirect that energy to creating a difference in our lives and in the lives of many others?

With EFT, you can release yourself from negative emotions that drain your energy and stop you from realizing your goals and dreams, thereby giving you the freedom to achieve greater and greater things that could not only transform your life, but the lives of many others as well.

The following EFT sequence will help to release you from shame, guilt and blame so you can get on with being successful and wealthy.

First rate the statement “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve” on a scale of 0 to 10. This statement can relate to what your expectations of you, as well as others expectations of you.

Set Up Phrase

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I can’t forgive myself for all the times I have failed and made mistakes, I deeply and completely forgive myself.

Even though I feel ashamed about my failures and all the times in my life I have made bad choices, I profoundly love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I have done some things and made some choices that are unforgiveable, I choose to deeply and completely love and forgive myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I am so ashamed of the number of times I have failed
Outside Eye: Nobody has failed as much as I have
Under Eye: I’m so disappointed with myself
Under Nose: I don’t think I can ever forgive myself for being such a huge failure.
Chin: I’ve really let myself down
Collar Bone: And I’ve let other people down
Under Arm:
Because I haven’t tried hard enough
Top of Head: I don’t deserve forgiveness
Eyebrow: Because sometimes I’ve been lazy
Outside Eye: And I haven’t always given my best
Under Eye: I haven’t followed through
Under Nose: I haven’t been true to my world
Chin: I haven’t been true to me
Collar Bone: I’ve sabotaged myself so many times
Under Arm: I truly can’t forgive some of the mistakes I’ve made
Top of Head: I haven’t lived up to my expectations
Eyebrow: And I haven’t lived up to the expectations of others
Outside Eye: I’ve made some stupid mistakes
Under Eye: I’ve squandered so much time and energy on meaningless activities
Under Nose: When I should have been focusing on the things I had to do to achieve my goals
Chin: I feel ashamed of some of the poor choices I have made.
Collar Bone: I don’t feel good enough to be wealthy and successful.
Under Arm: I can’t possibly forgive myself when I’ve made so many mistakes.
Top of Head: I don’t deserve to be forgiven because I’ve failed to live up to mine and everybody else’s expectations

Now return and rate the statement: “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve”. If the rating has come down to a 2 or below, then continue on to the positive tapping round. If you haven’t come down that far yet, just keep tapping with the phrases above, or ones that are more appropriate and specific to your situation until you have.

Positive Tapping:

Karate Chop:
Even though I still have this feeling that I deserve to suffer for being such a failure, I choose to love and forgive myself anyway.

Even though I still feel like my laziness / inefficiency / lack of focus is unforgivable, I deeply and completely love and forgive who I am and how I feel.

Even though I don’t know how I’m ever going to forgive myself for being such an under achiever when I have so much potential, I choose to forgive myself anyway and use that energy to move forward with confidence and enthusiasm.

Eyebrow: I have been lazy and inefficient and I haven’t been focused enough
Outside Eye: But I choose to acknowledge that I’ve been doing the best I can
Under Eye: Even if I feel it’s not good enough
Under Nose: Just because I haven’t achieved all my goals yet
Chin: Doesn’t mean I’m a bad person or a failure
Collar Bone: It just means I have some subconscious programming that is stopping me
Under Arm: It’s not really all my fault
Top of Head: And now that I recognize it, I choose to forgive myself
Eyebrow: I could have achieved a lot more by now if I’d had the right subconscious programming
Outside Eye: But it’s okay because I can start to turn that around right now
Under Eye: And the first thing I choose to do is forgive myself
Under Nose: I choose to have compassion and understanding for myself
Chin: I choose to be kind to myself
Collar Bone: I am a good person, I just need to adjust a few things
Under Arm: After all, success is a learning process.
Top of Head: And I love to learn new skills and information
Eyebrow: I choose to forgive my lack of results
Outside Eye: And know that I am capable of achieving whatever I put my mind to.
Under Eye: I just need to adopt the right subconscious programming
Under Nose: And I’m starting to do that right now
Chin: I choose to be proud of the fact that I haven’t given up
Collar Bone: I can’t fail until I give up
Under Arm: I choose to have compassion and understanding for me
Top of Head: And I choose to forgive myself for not achieving my goals yet and focus enthusiastically on reprogramming my subconscious to have a successful and wealthy mindset.

Again rate the statement: “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve”. Keep tapping until you bring the rating right down to zero.

There may be other things you need to forgive yourself for that you feel ashamed and guilty about which makes you feel unworthy to be successful and wealthy. Perhaps you did something to someone that was not very nice and hurt someone. Or maybe there’s something you didn’t do, that you feel you should have done. You may need to ask another person for their forgiveness which can be extremely healing and release you from terrible burdens. There are dozens of reasons why we end up on a permanent guilt trip which saps our energy and prevents us from feeling worthy of realizing our dreams.

EFT is capable of eliminating all of those negative feelings that are draining your energy and preventing you from living to your full potential. Adopt EFT as a part of your lifestyle and use it everyday and your life will be transformed in a relatively short amount of time.

Take care and Happy Tapping.

Is It Selfish or Greedy to be Wealthy?

Do you have a belief that it’s selfish or greedy to be wealthy? Do you feel that if you have more others will have less?

Let me ask you a couple of other questions. If you are struggling financially, how is that serving yourself and others? If all your needs and wants were met and you had the financial freedom to do whatever you wanted, what could you do to help others?

I’m not going to beat around the bush here. We are at a critical point in our evolution. We have a massive health crisis, a worsening wealth crisis and because of our actions, our planet is also in crisis and needs our assistance.

Do you think the governments of the world are going to solve each and every one of these crises? Do you think the lottery is your best chance of becoming financially free? What if you have a lot more power than you realize  to change your own future and the future of our world as we know it, you just have to release yourself from limiting beliefs that aren’t even yours?

The good news is, you do and you can! And the critical point is, YOU MUST!

I personally released myself from my blocks to wealth, success and freedom through the power EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, and Sound Healing. If you are ready to do the same, then please register for the 6 free EFT videos on the right hand side of this page.

Richard Branson has stated that it is the entrepreneurs of the world who is going to save our species and our planet. It is people like him and Oprah Winfrey and Bill Gates and Warren Buffet, all of them multi-billionaires from very humble beginnings, who are redistributing their wealth to places that really need it. And you don’t need to be a billionaire to make a difference, you just need to be financially free.

Many of us have been programmed to believe that wanting more than we need is greedy and selfish, when the truth is the opposite. Being wealthy, looking after your own needs and desires and redistributing the wealth to places that need it is one of the most selfless things you can possibly do.

Whilst you are fighting just to survive and pay the bills, you do not have the capacity to help anyone, nor should you have to. But by releasing yourself from the programming that has created this vicious cycle of financial imprisonment for you, you are free to help put money and time toward some of the thousands of causes for people, animals and the planet that desperately need our care, attention and money right now.

In other words, the people and animals of the world, and the planet itself, need you to be wealthy. Even by just being able to easily meet your basic needs, your energy will be freed up to think more about how you can help others.

Being wealthy is not a luxury, it is a responsibility to yourself, to the people you love, to the global community and to our planet. It’s time to break free of whatever is holding you back from living a life of passion, purpose and freedom and realize your goals and dreams, and help inspire a global revolution of wealth, health and freedom for everybody who lives on this planet.

Just register for the 6 free EFT videos on the right hand side of this page and create a life of purpose, passion and freedom!

Get Out Of Your Own Way

I spend a lot of time writing and talking about the subconscious and how it controls 96 to 98 percent of our results. This is because once you learn how to change this programming, and are committed to working at it consistently, your results will change so dramatically, it is like night and day. First you will find your behaviour changing and you will be aware of more opportunities coming into your life. You will take action that is congruent with achieving your goal and people and resources will turn up in your life like magic.

Hence the saying, ‘Get out of your own way’. You are the only person who is in charge of your results. Once you realise this and become aware of the behaviour and habits that aren’t serving you and are keeping you stuck, then you will really begin to move ahead in leaps and bounds.

This takes discipline and a willingness to do the things ninety-five percent of people won’t do so you can have what ninety-five percent of people will never have. And, unless you have an instant enlightenment experience like Byron Katy or Eckhart Tolle, this is a journey that takes time and dedication, it will not happen overnight. I’m not saying you have to meditate for 10 hours every day for the next 50 years to finally get it. We live in extraordinary times and we have the opportunity to shift our awareness incredibly quickly if we choose. However, it will take some effort on your part.

Why are willing to spend time, money and effort to avoid our feelings and ultimately perpetuate our pain, such as unhealthy levels of addictions to things like television, the latest technological toys and games, alcohol, sport, work, legal and illicit drugs, but the opportunity to spend 30 minutes a day healing and discovering our potential comes last, if at all?

Why haven’t we been taught to embrace all of our feelings, especially the uncomfortable ones, so we can discover the truth behind them so they lose their power over us? We give our power away to our fear, anger, grief, sadness, frustration, etc when we refuse to feel them fully and discover the truth within these feelings.  We take our power back when we choose to experience every aspect our beautiful existence and feel everything fully. We become awakened in that moment and all of a sudden those uncomfortable feelings are seen for what they are: merely responses to a belief system or perception about our world or ourselves.

Feelings have no life of their own, they only exist because of your response to a particular situation. And where one person might thrive on the adrenalin and excitement of performing in front of a crowd of 10,000 people, somebody else might prefer to die than take the risk of humiliation and rejection. Of course, if that latter is you, then public speaking might not be your chosen vehicle for making your dreams come true, at least not this right this minute.

Once you become a master of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, you become a conscious creator. Suddenly you have the ability to choose appropriate responses in every situation of your life instead of being at the mercy of your emotions.

Have you ever been in the middle of an argument and suddenly you have the thought ‘Why am I so angry and why am I taking it out on this person’? I certainly have, and the more aware you become, the more this occurs, until you are able to actually stop the unconscious response before it occurs. It is not the event itself that defines it’s meaning in our lives, but our response to it. And rarely, if ever, is it the particular circumstance that is the cause of our response. The event is merely a trigger which activates an automatic response within us, depending on previous experience and belief systems, formed usually in the first 6 years of our lives.

For example, a person who has had a history of betrayal or abandonment in their life, may feel particularly jealous if their partner is looking at someone of the opposite sex in, what they determine, is an inappropriate manner. Even if the other person is the most loyal and devoted person on the planet and has never shown any signs of betrayal, they respond from what they expect to occur. Because they have been betrayed or abandoned previously, they are expecting their partner to do the same and they perceive their over eager appreciation of another person as a betrayal, even though they have done nothing wrong.

We are all human, and just because we devote our lives to one person does not mean we automatically become robots incapable of appreciating the beautiful form of another human being. In fact this is perfectly healthy behaviour. What is not healthy is the over reaction of the person who immediately goes into fear of being betrayed, and angrily accuses the admirer of being unfaithful.

This is how our subconscious works. It looks for situations to prove our programming right. So we look for situations and events that will substantiate our model of the world. If we believe we don’t deserve to succeed, or it’s not safe to be successful, we will draw to us events and circumstances, and behave in ways that substantiate those beliefs and sabotage our success. And there may be hundreds or even thousands of those negative beliefs lurking in your subconscious, quietly working away and keeping you bound within your self imposed limitations.

It is your job to disentangle yourself from these belief systems and disable them so they don’t sabotage your success. This is why energy psychology and vibrational healing techniques are now becoming so popular, because they have the ability to quickly eliminate these beliefs so we can form new ones.

You need to be dedicated though, because your subconscious has formed these belief systems in an attempt to protect you and keep you safe. It is not likely to just show you what they are so you can get rid of them. You need to outsmart your subconscious and engage it to be your assistant in this process rather than your enemy.

And your emotions are your greatest ally in this quest. Become aware of your feelings in every moment and you will quickly discover what fears and beliefs you are holding onto that are stopping you from being the best you can be and living the life of your dreams.

I have found this is a fascination journey of discovery and, though difficult at times, highly rewarding. And the greatest reward is success. Following is an EFT Sequence to help you to get out of your own way.

Karate Chop Point

Even though I am my own worst enemy, I deeply and completely accept all of me

Even though I am responsible for all of my results in life, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have been the one holding myself back and stopping myself from succeeding, I deeply and profoundly love and accept all of me.

Inside Eye: I’ve been sabotaging myself all this time

Outside Eye: I should have known

Under Eye: I’ve allowed my emotions and belief systems to control my life

Under Nose: I feel powerless to take control of my life and realize my dreams

Chin: I should have known better

Collar Bone: I’m afraid to realize my true potential

Under Arm: I have all this conflict about success

Top of Head: I’m afraid to step out of my comfort zone

Inside Eye: It doesn’t feel safe

Outside Eye: What if it doesn’t work out?

Under eye: I’m afraid I’ll be disappointed

Under Nose: Actually, I’m afraid I’ll fail

Chin: I have all these negative beliefs about becoming successful

Collar Bone: It doesn’t feel safe to succeed

Under Arm: I don’t believe I deserve to succeed

Top of Head: I have all this conflict about success, no wonder I can’t realize my goals and dreams

 

Positive Round:

Karate Chop:

Even though I still have this conflict about success, I’m ready to transform and transcend all negative belief systems that are preventing me from realizing my goals and dreams.

Even though I’ve been sabotaging myself all along, I’m ready to get out of my own way and do whatever it takes.

Even though I’m responsible for where I am right now, I choose to forgive myself and get on the fast track to success and wealth.

Inside Eye: I’ve been sabotaging myself all along

Outside Eye: And now I’m willing to do whatever it takes to succeed

Under Eye: Even if I have to get out of my own road, it will be worth it

Under Nose: I choose to take my power back and feel strong

Chin: I choose to transform and transcend all my negative belief systems about wealth and success

Collar Bone: I’m ready to release all my negative belief systems about wealth and success

Under Arm: Even if it means I have to feel uncomfortable for a while

Top of Head: I choose to know I have everything within me that I need to succeed

Inside Eye: I’m armed and dangerous and I’m not afraid to use it

Outside Eye: I’ve been holding myself back all along

Under Eye: And it’s time for me to break free and charge toward success

Under Nose: I choose to release myself from all old limiting beliefs that don’t serve me

Chin: I live in the truth that I have whatever it takes to have what I want

Collar Bone: I love knowing I have everything I need to succeed within me

Under Arm: I choose to know I do deserve wealth and success

Top of Head: And I love knowing I have everything within me I need to succeed and be wealthy

You Deserve to Be Wealthy

How are your finances right now? Do you have the freedom to do everything you want and more? If not, then the reason is not the global economy. It’s not your families’ fault. It’s not your employers’ fault. It’s nobodies fault, not even yours, but it is your responsibility to change it.

Your personal economy is not at the mercy of any outside influence, and you have the ability to thrive under any economic conditions. More fortunes are made during times of depression than any other for those who put themselves in a position to take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves.

It depends on your subconscious programming, whether you believe it’s safe and right for you to succeed and whether your belief systems (BS) support that you deserve to succeed. But if you have any belief that there isn’t enough, that your not good enough, that something bad will happen if you succeed, that you don’t deserve success or wealth, that money is evil, that only criminals get rich, rich people are greedy / arrogant / uncaring or some other negative belief system, then your subconscious will never allow you to be wealthy or successful.

And unless your BS’s support you being wealthy and successful, you are living your life based on lies. You deserve to have everything you wish for and so much more. And the following EFT sequence will give you a big boost in the right direction.

There are hundreds, even thousands of reasons that you might subconsciously sabotage your success and it all stems back to your childhood and your ancestors belief systems around money and success as well as your experiences as you grew up. It’s impossible to get to the root of all your belief systems in one session. It is your responsibility to be consistent at uncovering what is holding you back. But the following EFT tapping sequence will help to shift your vibration and start the ball rolling and, if you use it often, you will find your belief systems coming up to show you what you need to clear in order to be successful and wealthy beyond your wildest dreams.

If you aren’t familiar with EFT Tapping then please visit my website www.healingandabundance.com where you can access a tutorial teaching you this simple yet powerful transformational technique.

Firstly, repeat the statement “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams”. Now rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could be for you.

And now follow this tapping sequence.

Karate Chop Point:

Even though I don’t believe I deserve to be wealthy and successful, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I keep sabotaging my financial freedom, I choose to love and accept myself and believe that I do deserve better.

Even though money and life is always a struggle for me and I don’t know how to change it, I choose to love and accept all of me.

Eyebrow:   Money is always a struggle for me.
Outside Eye:   My family has always worked hard for money
Under Eye:   And we could never get ahead
Under Nose:   That’s just the way it is for us
Chin:   We’re good, honest, hard working people
Collar Bone:   And honest people never get ahead
Under Arm:   That’s just the truth about life and money
Top of Head:   All wealthy people are greedy and waste money on frivolous things

Eyebrow:   And I would never like to be like them
Outside Eye:   So I never want to be wealthy
Under Eye:   It’s not right that I should be wealthy when so many other people, including my family never have enough
Under Nose:   Because the truth is, there is not enough to go round
Chin:   If I have more, somebody else has less, and I couldn’t live with that
Collar Bone:   Besides, money can’t buy happiness, that’s what my family taught me
Under Arm:   I should be satisfied with what I’ve got
Top of Head:   Besides, it’s safe where I am, even if I am struggling

Eyebrow:   I won’t know who I am if I’m wealthy and successful
Outside Eye:   And my life will change completely, and I couldn’t have that
Under Eye:   I’m better of just struggling and working hard
Under Nose:   My family showed me that that’s they way it’s supposed to be for us
Chin:   And I don’t want to betray my family and friends
Collar Bone:   What will they think of me?
Under Arm:   What if they don’t like me anymore?
Top of Head:   No, it’s definitely not safe for me to be wealthy and successful, so I’m going to stay right where I am

Take a slow, deep breath and again repeat the phrase “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams”. Rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10. The number should have improved at least a little bit.

Now it’s up to you to do some more in depth inquiry into why you aren’t wealthy and why you feel you don’t deserve to be. Have a look over the previous tapping phrases again and pull out the ones that are most true for you. I have covered a whole range of different belief systems there, but there are hundreds of others that may also pertain to you.

How do you feel about deserving to be wealthy? Life being a struggle? Being able to be frivolous with money? And think about why you would feel that you are undeserving? Think back to when you were about 5 or 6. How did your parents interact about money? Were they constantly working, struggling, stressing out and never getting ahead? Were there arguments about money? What did they think about rich, successful people? How would they react if you walked in the house being really wealthy and successful, driving an expensive sports car and wearing expensive clothing / jewellery? How would your friends react?

Are you starting to see where our subconscious could be a web of belief systems all intertwined that keep you stuck in your current reality?

So, once you’ve explored what’s holding you back and tapped until you have the rating around the phrase “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams” up to at least an 8, try the positive tapping round below and notice how different you feel.

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I still have this feeling that money has to be a struggle, I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.

Even though I have been holding myself back from being financially free, I deeply and completely accept myself and am open to new possibilities to attract more money into my life.

Even though I’m still holding onto these belief systems that are preventing me from being financially wealthy, I choose to believe there are hundreds of ways money could come to me and be open to receiving it.

Eyebrow:   I choose to believe that I deserve to be financially wealthy
Outside Eye:   I choose to know that there are hundreds of ways money could come to me
Under Eye:   I choose to give myself permission to be massively wealthy
Under Nose:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Chin:   I choose to believe in every fibre and cell of my being that it is safe for me to be wealthy and successful
Collar Bone:   I choose to release myself from worrying about what others are going to think about me
Under Arm:   I love being financially free and being able to be frivolous with money
Top of Head:   I choose to release myself from all the anxiety and stress around my money
Eyebrow:   I am so grateful for all the opportunities coming to me to help me receive more money
Outside Eye:   I choose to give myself permission to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Under Eye:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve success and financial wealth
Under Nose:   I love the thought of having more money than I could ever need
Chin:   I love thinking of all the good things I will do and people I will help when I have more money than I could ever need
Collar Bone:   I choose to release myself from all the negative belief systems that have held me back from money and success now
Under Arm:   I am even feeling excited about what the future holds for me financially.
Top of Head:   I love knowing that I deserve to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams and that it is safe for me to receive lots and lots of money.

If you want to see real lasting results, you will need to keep tapping on the various belief systems that you see coming up, including these ones consistently. And if you do, you will quite quickly see your life and your wealth transform and magic will happen.

Happy tapping.

You Deserve To Have More Fun

Do you ever feel like you’re on a never ending Ferris Wheel with an exhausting revolution of eat, sleep, work and stress, trying to keep with the endless list of ‘have to’s’ and trying to meet everybody elses’ expectations? Do you feel overwhelmed by responsibility?  What ever happened to actually living? Having some ‘you’ time? Fun? Laughter? How long ago was it that you really got to relax and have fun?

If you feel like this, then you are not alone. Most of the population feel trapped on this endless monotonous spinning wheel, often not knowing how they even got there, let alone how they’re ever going to get off.

Societies expectations drive us to outcomes that may not actually be what we really want, but by default we have been led to believe that being part of the ‘norm’ will make us happy. How many people do you know who are living the ‘norm’ who are truly happy and satisfied with their lives? If you can name one person, I will congratulate you.

In my experience, it is only those people who have the courage to jump off that spinning Ferris Wheel and go against societies expectations who ever really get the opportunity to realize fulfilment and lasting happiness. I’m not about to tell you it will be a soft landing if you do decide to jump either. However, there is no challenge that you cannot overcome, the trick is to believe that you deserve to be happy, successful and fulfilled doing whatever it is that you want to do.

So today I am sharing with you a new EFT tapping sequence to help you to develop that belief within yourself. You see, the moment you believe you deserve to have fun, you will naturally allow yourself to have more fun and more situations will eventuate that will be naturally enjoyable. You will also find that many of those situations that you previously found mundane or even frustration, you will start to enjoy more and smile more at the little annoyances that crop up. Yes, it is possible to genuinely smile in the face of frustration and irritation. It’s called lightening up and not taking everything so seriously.

If you aren’t familiar with EFT Tapping then please visit my website www.healingandabundance.com where you will can access a tutorial teaching you this simple yet powerful transformational technique.

Firstly, repeat the statement “I deserve to relax and enjoy myself and have fun”. Now rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could be for you.

And now follow this tapping sequence.

Karate Chop Point:

Even though I never have any time to relax and have fun, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I am overwhelmed with responsibilities and never have time to enjoy myself, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though my life is too stressful and there is no way I could possible find time to have any fun, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow:   I have too much to do and not enough time.
Outside Eye:   My life is so full of responsibility & stuff to do
Under Eye:   I never have any time to have fun
Under Nose:   There’s no way I could ever possibly enjoy myself
Chin:   I don’t deserve to have fun, I have too much to do.
Collar Bone:   It would be so nice to just relax and have a laugh
Under Arm:   But I don’t have any time for that
Top of Head:   There’s always too much to do and never enough time

Eyebrow:   I’m so tired of all this responsibility and stress
Outside Eye:   When did my life become so busy?
Under Eye:   I didn’t expect life to be this complicated.
Under Nose:   I don’t even remember when it stopped being fun.
Chin:   I would really like to relax and really enjoy life more
Collar Bone:   When to I get to actually LIVE?
Under Arm:   I feel so overwhelmed with responsibility
Top of Head:   And there’s never enough time for me to relax and really let my hair down.

Eyebrow:   Life is just too busy and that’s the way it’s supposed to be
Outside Eye:   At least, that’s what I learnt when I was a child
Under Eye:   Life is supposed to be a struggle with no time for fun
Under Nose:   And I don’t deserve to actually enjoy myself
Chin:   It would be so nice to just be able to relax and let go for a change
Collar Bone:   But that’s never going to happen for me
Under Arm:   I have too much to do and never enough time
Top of Head:   Life is supposed to be a struggle, and I know because I’ve proved it over and over, and I’m still proving it!

Take a slow, deep breath and again repeat the phrase “I deserve to relax and enjoy myself and have fun”. Rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10. The number should have improved at least a little bit.

Now do some more in depth inquiry into why you don’t have fun and why you feel you don’t deserve to. Have a look over the previous tapping phrases again and pull out the ones that are most true for you. How do you feel about deserving to have fun? Life being a struggle? Being able to relax? And think about why you would feel that you are undeserving? How did your parents feel about having fun? Were they constantly working, struggling, stressing out and never having fun? How did they respond when you were having fun?

If you aren’t having fun in your life then you have a program in your subconscious that says it’s not safe, or you don’t deserve to, or it’s not right, etc. And whatever it is, IT’S A LIE! Your task is to uncover the belief around this that is stopping you from having fun and dissolve it. Just think if the whole world was having more fun what a different place it would be.

So, once you have gotten the rating around the phrase “I deserve relax and enjoy myself and have fun” up to at least an 8, try the positive tapping round below and notice how different you feel.

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I don’t give myself permission to have fun, I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to relax and enjoy myself.

Even though I have all these responsibilities and no time for fun, I deeply and completely accept myself and am open to enjoying my life more and having more fun.

Even though I’ve not allowed myself to have fun for years, I choose to open up to having more time to be frivolous and enjoy my life from this point on.

Eyebrow:   I choose to believe that I deserve to relax and have fun
Outside Eye:   I choose to trust that everything is working out perfectly and I don’t have to worry so much anymore.
Under Eye:   I choose to give myself permission to relax and have more fun.
Under Nose:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to have more fun and freedom in my life.
Chin:   I choose to believe in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to have more time for me to have more joy.
Collar Bone:   I love having fun with family and friends
Under Arm:   I love to laugh
Top of Head:   I choose to release myself from all the anxiety and seriousness around my responsibilities.

Eyebrow:   I love lightening up and being amused by the situations I find myself in.
Outside Eye:   I love knowing that the more I release my anxiety, the better I am at finding solutions to challenges.
Under Eye:   I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to have more fun and freedom in my life
Under Nose:   I give myself permission to enjoy my life in all ways and have more fun.
Chin:   I choose to stop taking life so seriously and to see the light side of everything
Collar Bone:   I love finding more opportunities to relax and enjoy myself with friends and family
Under Arm:   I already feel lighter and brighter about my future
Top of Head:   I love knowing that I deserve to relax and have fun and enjoy all areas of my life.

Just because you see the lighter side of life doesn’t mean you will abandon your responsibilities, however you will find you are more creative and less likely to get overwhelmed with stress and anxiety about various aspects of your day to day responsibilities. To be honest, most of what we worry about either never eventuates or is not nearly as desperate as we imagine.

And remember, if you want to see real lasting results, you will need to keep tapping on various belief systems, including these ones consistently. And if you do, you will quite quickly see your life transform and magic will happen.

Happy tapping.

Take Your Power Back With EFT

Do you feel powerless? Hopeless? Like there’s no point putting a lot of effort into your future because it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to? Do you feel as if you have no control over your own life?

The truth is we have been conditioned to give our power away to people and situations in our lives for centuries. We carry this disempowerment in our cellular memory from past lives, past generations and from our current history. Because we don’t know any better, we allow it to dictate our present moment and the outcomes of our future by giving our power away. And often we give up because having given our power away, we feel powerless, disempowered, hopeless. It feels like there’s no use.

Can you relate to any of those feelings?

If you want different results, it’s time to take your power back. Time to take charge of your life and be the captain of your own ship and create your own destiny by design, instead of default. Don’t allow other people, events and outside influences to dictate how successful and happy you are. To do so makes you a victim to circumstance and as long as you are being a victim, you will be at the mercy of life.

Taking your power back does not mean you have to dis-empower or bully others. It means being confident in your own being and not allowing external situations to influence the decisions you make or actions you take in your own life. It is up to you to decide what is for your highest good and define your life accordingly.

There will always be outside events and people that affect our lives, but the ultimate outcome for you is determined by how you respond to those.

So think for a moment where you have given your power away. There will probably be several areas where you have allowed yourself to be disempowered and possible hundreds even thousands of events that have occurred. Choose the memory that feels the most intense when you think about it.

How does it make you feel to know you gave your power away? Sad? Angry? Frustrated? Disappointed? Powerless? Hopeless? Weak?

The following EFT tapping script is going to focus on the feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness, however, you can substitute any of the above feelings, or others that may be more appropriate for you to do the tapping. And if you have several feelings around this, then keep doing the EFT until you have got them all down to a 1 or a 0.

Make the statement: “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.” Rate the truth of that statement on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could possibly be.

Now tap along on the points with the following script, substituting different words and phrases that are more appropriate to your circumstances if you need to.

Set Up – Karate Chop Point

Even though I have given all my power away to this situation, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I feel so disempowered because I allowed it / them to take my power away, I choose to love and respect myself anyway.

Even though I gave my power away and have been left feeling hopeless and powerless, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Tapping Through the Points:

Eyebrow: I feel so powerless

Outside Eye: I gave all my power away to this situation / person

Under Eye: I gave up even trying because it feels so hopeless

Under Nose: It’s not fair that they took away all my power

Chin: And I was stupid to let them

Collar Bone: I didn’t stand a chance

Under Arm: They were too powerful for me

Top of Head: They completely over ran me and made me feel powerless

Eyebrow: No wonder I haven’t been able to be successful

Outside Eye: I should have known better

Under Eye: I should have been stronger

Under Nose: It’s just hopeless

Chin: There’s no way I can succeed

Collar Bone: I let them run all over me

Under Arm: This situation / person completely took all my power away

Top of Head: And there have been many other times too

Eyebrow: I’ve got no power left because I gave it all away

Outside Eye: I feel so hopeless and disempowered

Under Eye: How am I ever going to succeed when people and things stop me

Under Nose: Why do I keep giving my power away?

Chin: They / this took all my power away from me

Collar Bone: It’s not my fault

Under Arm: I feel completely powerless and hopeless

Tope of Head: And there’s no point trying because I don’t have the power to succeed

Now, take a deep breath and again say out loud “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.” and rate the truth of that statement on a scale of 0 to 10.

You may need to focus more on the negative to bring the feeling down to a at least a 1 or a 2 before proceeding. Again, say it the way it is. How you are feeling and what is appropriate for you. The more you get in touch with your own feelings, the more effective this is going to be.

Now we are going to do a positive round of tapping.

Set Up Statement – Karate Chop Point

Even though I still feel this sense of powerlessness and it makes me feel really sad, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.

Even though I gave my power away and have been held back all these years because if it, I profoundly love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I allowed them / it to take my power away, I choose to love and accept myself and know that I have been doing my best all along.

Tapping Through The Points

Eyebrow: How could I give all my power away like that?

Outside Eye: That was just stupid

Under Eye: And now I choose to forgive myself

Under Nose: And take my power back

Chin: I choose to know I can take all my power back right now

Collar Bone: I choose to take control over my life

Under Arm: I didn’t know any better before

Top of Head: And that’s ok

Eyebrow: Because now I choose to take my power back

Outside Eye: I choose to be captain of my own ship

Under Eye: If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me

Under Nose: I’ve had some set backs

Chin: But everybody has those

Collar Bone: I choose to know I can over come anything

Under Arm: I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I can achieve anything.

Top of Head: I choose to know in my physical being and my etheric being that I am infinitely powerful

Eyebrow: And I can achieve anything I set my mind to

Outside Eye: I choose to take all my power back right now

Under Eye: I love feeling powerful and knowing I am in control of my destiny

Under Nose: They / It doesn’t have any power over me any more

Chin: Because I choose to take all my power back

Collar Bone: And take positive action toward my goals

Under Arm: Even if it doesn’t turn out perfectly straight away

Top of Head: I know I have the power to eventually achieve anything I want and I love feeling my infinite power and knowing I am capable of achieving anything I set my mind to.

Take a deep breath and again rate that statement: “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.”

Keep assessing your feeling of powerlessness / hopelessness in the days to come. If a situation comes up where you feel powerless then tap again. You will probably find more feelings and aspects associated with your feelings of powerlessness that you haven’t explored yet.

Remember, you are a work in progress, and everything is perfect right now, and it will take time for you to heal deep wounds that have occurred during this life time and others so you can reach the point that you are living to your full potential and living the life of your dreams.

Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, be patient and expect miracles and magic in your life.

Take care and happy tapping,
Marguerita