happiness

I Give Myself Permission To Be Happy With EFT

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Scientific studies have shown that each one of us has our own ‘happiness set point’. This means that no matter what happens to us, we are pre-programmed to return to a particular level of happiness within 12 months. So even if you have a tragic event happen, or an out of this world fabulous event, it is highly likely that within a period of 12 months you will return to the same level of happiness you were at before the event occurred.

This happiness set point is determined 50% by your DNA and 50% by your environment and your programmed responses to it. So you may have been fortunate enough, like myself, to come in with a happy disposition already present in your personality, or you may have been born with a more serious nature that finds happiness more difficult.

The good news is, that no matter what your DNA dictates, you have complete control over the other 50% of your level of happiness and you can reprogram yourself to be happy, no matter what.

There is a fabulous book by Marci Schimoff called “Happy For No Reason”. In this book Marci has interviewed 100 of the happiest people in the world to determine what the common underlying theme was for all these people. She then goes on to give practical tips and exercises to help you to raise your happiness set point and learn how to be ‘Happy for No Reason’. I highly recommend this book.

For most of us, we’re expecting our external conditions to all fall into perfect place before we are happy. We have made our happiness conditional. At first inspection, this seems perfectly reasonable and you’re probably wondering how on earth you can be happy if things aren’t going well for you. Well, the truth is, true happiness is unconditional. It comes from a place within us and is not reliant on external conditions to be present. It is already there, we just have to let go of all the crap that’s covering it up to feel happy.

Now I know you’re probably thinking, ‘But you don’t know what my life’s like. If you knew how much crap I’ve got going on, you’d know that I could never be happy.”  And I understand why you feel that way.

Many people are suffering some grave situations right now and it may seem impossible to be happy even when things look so grave. But believe me, it’s possible to be happy no matter what. It’s all about making a different choice and choosing to be happy regardless of whatever else is going on in your life.

I understand even the concept of this can be difficult to wrap your mind around let alone know how to achieve this utopian ideal of happiness and bliss regardless of what’s going on in your life. And no, I am not on drugs. Never have, nor will I ever take drugs to achieve an altered mind state because I know that I can do it without artificial aids and it’s sooooooo much better without all the lethal consequences.

The fact is that our brain is wired to focus on the negative and that’s what makes us unhappy. All of us have reasons to be sad, angry, frustrated, upset, overwhelmed, etc. The truth is everybody also has reasons to be happy, even when you feel like you don’t, and it’s the people who look beyond the negative stuff in their lives and focus on the reasons they have to be happy that are the happiest of all.

It’s not about ignoring the bad stuff, it’s about making it less important than the good stuff. You are supposed to feel good. And when you change the way you think, you can. It won’t happy instantly as you’re training your brain a new way of being, but it will all be worth it if you stick with it.

So following you will find an Emotional Freedom Technique sequence which, when used frequently, will help you to be happier more often and regardless of what’s happening in your life.

So firstly I want you to rate this phrase on a scale of 0 (not true for you) and 10 (the most true it could possibly be).

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

Karate Chop:

Even though I know I won’t be happy until all my problems are solved and things turn out the way I want them to, I choose to accept how my life is right now.

Even though I can’t be happy until my life is sorted and I get what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I’m never happy because my life sucks and I can’t imagine being happy with the problems I have, I accept how my life is and how I feel about it.

Eyebrow: My life sucks and I’ve got nothing to be happy about

Outside Eye: Everything’s wrong with my life

Under Eye: How could I possibly be happy with my life as it is

Under Nose: I don’t even believe happiness exists

Chin: How can it when everything is in the toilet

Collar Bone: I can’t see any reason to be happy

Under Arm: I’m always struggling and nothing works out

Top of Head: I have all these problems

Eyebrow: My life is in chaos

Outside Eye: I’ve got plenty of reasons not to be happy

Under Eye: If she took a walk in my shoes, she’d know why I can’t be happy

Under Nose: Every day is a struggle just to get through it

Chin: Even thinking about trying to be happy makes me sad

Collar Bone: I feel so sad by what’s going on in my life

Under Arm: I feel depressed when I look at my life

Top of Head: I am over being sad and unhappy

Eyebrow: But I don’t have a choice

Outside Eye: There’s no way I could be happy with they way things are

Under Eye: What a ridiculous idea

Under Nose: I can’t remember the last time I was really happy

Chin: Until my life improves, there is no way I can feel happy

Collar Bone: I have too much to be sad and angry and frustrated about

Under Arm: Don’t talk to me about happiness!

Top of Head: I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works

Now take a deep breath and go back and rate the statement:

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

Keep tapping on those phrases or ones that work for you until you bring that rating down to at least a 2 before moving on to the positive tapping phrase below.

Now take a few minutes to make a list of 10 reasons that you could be happy about. They don’t need to be earth shattering. Just choose some little things like the air you breathe, that you have a house to live in, that you woke up this morning, that it’s a beautiful day, that you have found EFT, that you are able to read this article. Simple, everyday things that you could be happy about.

Karate Chop:

Even though I still can’t image being happy because my life really sucks, I am open to feeling just a little bit happier right now.

Even though I have so many reasons not to be happy, I’m willing to look for reasons I could be happy and focus on those instead.

Even though I can’t remember the last time I was really happy, and no wonder considering all the crap that’s gone on in my life, I choose to relax and be open to finding reasons to feel even just a little bit happy.

Eyebrow: I have so many reasons not to be happy

Outside Eye: And I can’t imagine feeling happiness right now

Under Eye: Maybe I have some things in my life to be happy about

Under Nose: But there are many more reasons to be unhappy

Chin: What if I focused on the happy stuff

Collar Bone: Maybe I could feel a little bit happier

Under Arm: But the bad stuff is so overwhelming

Top of Head: What if I could be happy even with all this crap in my life

Eyebrow: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could feel happy right now

Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be just a little bit happy

Under Eye: Even though my life is such a mess

Under Nose: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now

Chin: I resolve to focus on the things I can be happy about

Collar Bone: I love knowing that underneath all these bad feelings

Under Arm: There is a happy me waiting to be discovered

Top of Head: I give myself permission to be happy no matter what

Eyebrow: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now

Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be happy right now

Under Eye: I love the thought of feeling happy no matter what

Under Nose: Even though I’ve still got heaps of reasons to be unhappy

Chin: I’ve also got plenty of reasons to be happy

Collar Bone: I choose to focus on those and allow myself to be a little bit happier

Under Arm: I love feeling good about myself and feeling happy inside

Top of Head: I have so many reasons to be happy and I choose to focus on those.

And take a deep breath and rate the statement again:

“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”

The more you work with this kind of EFT tapping sequence, the better your life will appear to be and the happier you will be.

Take care and happy tapping.

Marguerita Vorobioff

Attract $20,000 with EFT

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Would having an extra $20,000 help you out right now? I’m sure it would! Nobody in their right mind would sneeze at $20,000.

Ever since the hit movie ‘The Secret’, people have been working with the Law of Attraction and trying desperately to transform their lives for the better. Most, unfortunately, have never achieved the results they desire, and many have given up with a sense of hopelessness feeling as if either there is something wrong with them, or that the Law of Attraction is a sham.

This is an unfortunate situation, and the truth is, that most people don’t understand the fundamental principals of the Law of Attraction and what it takes to make it work.

The principal behind the LOA is simple. We are vibrational beings and, just like us, everything in the Universe is energy vibrating at a particular frequency. When 2 objects vibrate at the same frequency, they are attracted to each other. All emotions and belief systems are also energy. So if you have belief systems and emotions that are vibrating in alignment with lack and poverty, you will literally repel money. The good news is that we can alter our vibration and frequency through positive focus on what we want and aligning ourselves vibrationally with it.

The next most important point is that this takes time, and it is different for everybody. For some it may happen quite quickly, depending on where their vibration is in comparison to what they want, while others may take a lot longer. The critical thing is to never, never, never give up. As long as you maintain a positive focus, you must end up in alignment with what you want and when you are in alignment, it must come into your life. THIS IS LAW!!!

Fortunately we now have many different transformational tools available to us to help change our frequency more quickly. And when used regularly and effectively, over time our lives can become like a factory for miracles.

Those who know me know that my favourite tools are Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Sound Healing. So following you will find an EFT script that you can follow and, if used regularly (preferably every day) for a few weeks, miracles will definitely start to occur.

Karate Chop:

Even though I could really use $20,000 right now, I have absolutely no idea how to attract it into my life, and I choose to love and accept myself anyway.

Even though the thought of having an extra $20,000 really makes my heart sing, I’m convinced that I will never get to see that kind of money in my lifetime because I’ve always blocked it in the past, but I choose to be open to all the possibilities the Universe has in store for me.

Even though I’m convinced that I’m hopeless at attracting money and the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me, I’m open to finding out whatever is blocking me from wealth and releasing whatever that is.

Eyebrow: There’s no way I’m going to receive $20,000

Outside Eye: It’s just not possible

Under Eye: I could definitely use it right now

Under Nose: But I am hopeless at attracting money

Chin: I’ve tried everything and the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me

Collar Bone: The thought of having that kind of money makes me go weak at the knees

Under Arm: It would really solve a lot of problems for me right now

Top of Head: But I’ve never been good at receiving money

Eyebrow: Money and me really don’t get along

Outside Eye: I must be blocking it for some reason

Under Eye: But that doesn’t make any sense

Under Nose: Why would I block money coming into my life

Chin: Maybe the Universe is holding out on me

Collar Bone: Maybe it’s some kind of cosmic joke

Under Arm: Well it’s not funny

Top of Head: I’m angry that I’ve tried really hard, but the Universe is holding out on me

Eyebrow: I’m fed up that I can’t create the money I want in my life

Outside Eye: I’ve tried and tried and there’s no way I’m getting $20,000

Under Eye: The Law of Attraction just doesn’t work for me

Under Nose: I know deep down inside that I’m blocking it

Chin: Which is really frustrating because I could really use $20,000 right now

Collar Bone: Maybe I don’t feel safe having that kind of money

Under Arm: Maybe I don’t feel like I deserve it

Top of Head: Maybe I’d be breaking some sort of family law if I had that kind of money

Eyebrow: I would love to know why I’m blocking having more money

Outside Eye: Because then I could clear it and all my problems would be solved

Under Eye: But I have no idea how I could create having $20,000

Under Nose: I’m obviously not in vibrational alignment with it

Chin: Because I’m just no good at bringing money into my life

Collar Bone: I would love to have an extra $20,000 dollars right now

Under Arm: But I really don’t believe that it’s ever going to happen

Top of Head: And I’m tired of struggling for money

Take a deep breath.

Most people, when they’re considering their financial problems, get stuck because they don’t know how they can change their situation. Remember that ‘how’ is not important because it’s not your business. The Universe has hundreds if not thousands of possibilities available to be able to create solutions to your problems and whatever money you want to attract into your life. The Universe knows how to orchestrate everything to create whatever you want. ‘How’ is not your concern. ‘What’ is all you have to worry about and then follow the inspiration that turns up.

Start to really pay attention to any signs and inspiration that appear over the coming days, weeks and months and be grateful for any extra money, small and large, however it comes to you and a trickle will turn into a flood.

Now for a positive EFT tapping round.

Eyebrow: I would really love to have an extra $20,000 right now

Outside Eye: I can just imagine what I’m going to do to get it

Under Eye: I would love to know why I’m blocking money in my life

Under Nose: And whatever it is, I choose to transcend and transform it right now

Chin: Maybe I don’t have to know what the block is

Collar Bone: I choose to tune into my vibration

Under Arm: And call up all the blocks I have to money

Top of Head: And I transform and transmute them into pure love energy

Eyebrow: I call up whatever blocks I have to $20,000

Outside Eye: And I transform and transcend them right now

Under Eye: I choose to take all the energy I have invested

Under Nose: In blocking money in my life

Chin: And transmute and transform it into pure love energy right now

Collar Bone: I choose to release any belief system or emotion

Under Arm: That’s blocking $20,000 in my life

Top of Head: And transmute, transform and transcend it into positive energy now

Eyebrow: I love the thought of having $20,000

Outside Eye: And I’m curious about how it’s going to turn up

Under Eye: I choose to allow it into my life with ease and grace

Under Nose: I choose to be open to receive $20,000 now

Chin: I choose to know I’m a master creator

Collar Bone: And if I want an extra $20,000 then I just have to align my vibration with it

Under Arm: So I choose to align my vibration with $20,000 right now

Top of Head: And I allow it into my life with ease and grace

Eyebrow: I know exactly what I’m going to do with that money

Outside Eye: And it is going to feel so great

Under Eye: I am ready to release all belief systems that are blocking financial freedom for me

Under Nose: And I’m really excited about having an extra $20,000 in my life

Chin: And I’m open to all the possibilities and opportunities

Collar Bone: That could help me create $20,000

Under Arm: With ease and grace

Top of Head: I’m so happy and so grateful to receive $20,000 with ease and grac

Another thing to remember is that your level of belief is also very important. The slightest doubt will unravel your attempts to attract what you want, so build absolute faith using EFT and by visualising your dreams, being grateful for them coming to fruition. Do this and your life will be transformed.

And you may have any belief systems that are blocking your wealth become very clear to you through things that happen. Pay attention, particularly to things and situations that are in your face, and may even be challenging. These are gifts from the Universe showing you what’s blocking what you want. It’s up to you to clear them to allow the money to show up.

And finally, be patient. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen. IT IS LAW!

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EFT For Unconditional Love

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What if you could love yourself unconditionally? How would your life be transformed? How would your relationships be transformed?

Loving yourself is the ultimate key to your freedom as it is the condition that underlies your feelings of self-worth, the quality of your relationships with yourself and others, your level of success, your depth of happiness, your health and wellbeing, and pretty much every other aspect of your life.

If you find that a little hard to swallow, just imagine loving yourself no matter what. How would your feelings about yourself change? How would your behaviour change? Where would your feelings of self-worth be? How would those things affect each area of your life?

Love is the very essence of who we are, and once we reconnect with that unconditionally, every negative feeling, behaviour, condition or event in our lives pales into insignificance. It does not mean that we will not experience difficult times, but they will no longer define who we are because we will be in love with all of it. Hard to imagine isn’t it?

Well, using the following EFT sequence regularly will help you to move more and more into a state of unconditional love for yourself and others.

First, rate the following statement on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it is not true for you at all and 10 being that it is 100% true: “I completely love every part of myself and my life unconditionally.”

Unlike most of the set up statements I use, this time the desired outcome is to get as close to 10 as possible, not zero.

Now use the following EFT phrase to increase the rating.

Set Up

Karate Chop:

Even though I can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally, I deeply and completely accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I have too many faults and imperfections to be truly loveable, I choose to accept myself as I am right now.

Even though someone like me doesn’t deserve to be loved unconditionally, I profoundly accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I really can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally

Outside Eye: I have too many imperfections

Under Eye: I could never be good enough to deserve unconditional love

Under Nose: Unconditional love isn’t for people like me

Chin: I’ve got too many bad qualities

Collar Bone: Nobody could ever love me unconditionally

Under Arm: Even me

Top of Head: You have to earn unconditional love

Eyebrow: And I’m not good enough

Outside Eye: I’ve done too many bad things

Under Eye: I don’t deserve that kind of love

Under Nose: I don’t even believe unconditional love exists

Chin: Even my parents couldn’t love me unconditionally

Collar Bone: They withdrew their love all the time when I didn’t please them

Under Arm: And even if it did exist

Top of Head: I wouldn’t deserve it anyway

Eyebrow: I can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally

Outside Eye: I’m just not that loveable

Under Eye: I have too many faults and imperfections

Under Nose: Only people who are perfect deserve unconditional love

Chin: And I am so far from perfect, I can’t even see the horizon

Collar Bone: I could never love myself unconditionally

Under Arm: Never in a million years

Top of Head: I have never done anything to deserve being loved unconditionally, even by me.

Take a deep breath and go back and rate the statement “I completely love every part of myself and my life unconditionally.” It should have shifted a bit. Now, regardless of where that rating is, proceed to the positive tapping round.

NB: I have used the word God in the following sequence, however, I am aware that some people are not comfortable using this word as there may be a negative feeling around it for some. If it doesn’t work for you, then please use any word that works for you – e.g. Divine, Source, Universe, Universal Energy, etc.

Karate Chop:

Even though I still can’t imagine loving myself unconditionally, I choose to be open to the possibility that I am loveable.

Even though I don’t believe I deserve unconditional love, I am willing to consider the possibility that I could love myself more than I do now.

Even though unconditional love needs to be earned, and I am not good enough, I choose to be open to embracing new possibilities about loving myself unconditionally.

Eyebrow: God / Source / The Universe loves me unconditionally

Outside Eye: I’m a pretty good person when it comes down to it

Under Eye: Maybe I’ve been judging myself too harshly

Under Nose: What if I don’t have to earn unconditional love

Chin: It would be nice if I could love myself no matter what

Collar Bone: It would be nice if love didn’t depend on what I did

Under Arm: What if real love isn’t judgemental or conditional

Top of Head: And what if I could just allow myself to be loved like that?

Eyebrow: Better still, what if I could love myself like that?

Outside Eye: I wonder if it’s possible to love myself unconditionally?

Under eye: I don’t have to earn God’s love

Under Nose: So it doesn’t make sense that I have to earn my love.

Chin: What if I could just love all of my imperfections

Collar Bone: I love the thought of loving myself just the way I am

Under Arm: I choose to love all of me just as I am right now

Top of Head: Even with all my faults and imperfections

Eyebrow: I choose to love myself like God does

Outside Eye: I choose to know that unconditional love is the essence of who I am.

Under Eye: And if love is who I am, than I do not need to earn love

Under Nose: Just because some of my actions are not loveable

Chin: Doesn’t mean I am not loveable

Collar Bone: Unconditional love fills my heart and sustains me

Under Arm: I am complete unconditional love

Top of Head: I choose to embrace my eternal essence and love myself unconditionally.

Eyebrow: Because the truth is there is nothing I can do that would make me unlove-able.

Outside Eye: Because my actions do not define me

Under Eye: Love defines me

Under Nose: It always has and it always will

Chin: And the more I love myself unconditionally

Collar Bone: The more I will love others unconditionally

Under Arm: So I choose to embrace and love all of me including my imperfections.

Top of Head: I love feeling unconditional love for myself, just like God / Source / The Divine does.

Take a breath and rate the statement “I completely love every part of myself and my life unconditionally.” Keep using this tapping sequence every day for 2 weeks and notice how differently you feel about yourself and how it redefines your relationships with others. Other people will start to respond to you differently. The people in our lives can only reflect how we feel about ourselves.

Use this theme on a regular basis for your tapping and notice how your heart begins to open and your relationships change, including your relationship with yourself.

Happy Tapping.

Marguerita Vorobioff

Money Can Buy Happiness

That’s right! I am going to go against the trend and tell you that the age old belief that ‘Money can’t buy happiness’ is a myth and you need to vanquish it from your memory and your programming forever.

The obvious argument for the original statement that ‘money can’t buy happiness’ is clear. Happiness comes from within, and there are plenty of wealthy and successful people who are unfulfilled and desperately unhappy. I am not disputing that for a second.

And I’m not talking about being able to buy more ‘stuff’ that will make you happy. This is a recipe for disaster and will pretty much guarantee failure in your pursuit of happiness as more stuff is simply another distraction from what you really need which is personal fulfilment on all levels: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

My position in this debate is this: it’s not that money can’t buy happiness, but that money doesn’t necessarily buy you happiness. Money can most definitely buy you happiness when you are spending it wisely in ways that will help you to rediscover happiness.

Happiness is a state of being that exists within us regardless of our situation, it’s just that more often than not it has paled into insignificance because of all the stress, worry, anger, fear, frustration, sadness, guilt, shame, overwhelm, etc, etc, etc. It’s not that we aren’t happy, it’s just that the happiness has been swamped by a multitude of other negative emotions. The happiness is still inside us waiting to rise above all the other conditions.

So, if this is true, how can money buy happiness?

Well, what is the best way to release all your negative emotions to rediscover your true inner peace and happiness? Healing, personal development and reconnecting with who you truly are!

And what is almost essential to help you experience the most powerful form of healing and personal development? Money!

Sure, we all have within us everything we need to be our beautiful, magnificent, awesomeness and share it with the world. However, in my experience, it can be almost impossible to raise your head out of the emotional quagmire to be able to reach that place inside on your own. Having someone to guide you to that place inside of you and help you release all the other crap is so much more effective and efficient.

And there are plenty of incredible healers and specialists available who have made it their life’s work to do just that. The fact of the matter is that they charge money for their services, and rightly so. And the more well known they are, the more money they charge.

It’s important to note that just because they are more well known, doesn’t mean they are necessarily the best. It just means they have marketed themselves more effectively to be seen as the expert.

Money will also give you the time freedom you need to be able to spend it focusing on your healing and personal development to realize true and lasting happiness.

 

And if you have money, you can invest it in acquiring the tools, information and resources you require to live a life of purpose, passion and fulfilment.

 

So in fact, money will never be the source of your happiness. Having a constant in flow of money will help you feel financially secure, but it is the way you utilise the money that will ultimately assist you in rediscovering your true state of joy and happiness.

 

Money is a tool that gives you access to everything you need to engage in a fulfilling and satisfying life. So do whatever you can to eliminate your negative belief systems around money. It’s time you gave yourself permission to be successful and wealthy and do whatever you came here to do so the rest of the world can benefit!

EFT for When Shit Happens

 

Below is the EFT and Sound Healing recording for this post:

Do you find yourself rolling from one challenge to the next? Do you feel like nothing ever works for you? Are you fed up with having something to wrong every time you turn a corner?

Welcome to life my friend! Life is a continuous cycle of challenges and problems to solve. And successful people are not immune to this. In fact, the more successful you become, the bigger and more frequent the challenges become. The difference is successful people are great at finding solutions and don’t get stuck in the problem.

And fortunately, as you become more successful, the quality of the problems improves. Instead of worrying about how you are going to feed your family, your questioning how you can make a bigger profit. Or how you can turn what seems like adverse business conditions to your advantage.

I apologize if you are offended by mild profanity, but the truth is, ‘Shit Happens’. It always has and it always will. There are only two variables:

  1. How deep the shit is.
  2. How adept and creative you are at finding a solution to the shit.

The Universe will never throw anything at you that you can’t handle. And honestly, sometimes life really sucks. The question is what are you going to do about it? If you are intent on staying focused on the problem complaining that nothing ever works for you and blaming the situation or person for your predicament, then your life will be an endless cycle of struggle, frustration and pain.

On the other hand, if you are determined to become creative and resourceful and be solution focused, you will find life a very rewarding, exhilarating experience, and you will travel from one success to the next with a sense of eagerness and excitement. As you get better at solving problems, you may even start to enjoy them and how they bring out the best in you. You learn far more from your challenges than you do from the times in your life that are easy. Although, we all benefit from those too. Everybody needs a break right!

On the one hand we have been programmed to believe that life wasn’t meant to be easy, and on the other we have this unrealistic expectation that at some point all the challenges will stop coming and life will be just smooth sailing.

The reality is shit will continue to happen. That’s a fact. And you can choose to see life as an endless struggle and stay stuck, frustrated and overwhelmed, or you can see it as your construction site where things don’t always go the way you want them to and you need to adjust your plans accordingly and find solutions so you can build the life you truly desire.

A problem is only a problem when you can’t find a solution. And there is a solution for every problem. When you take this approach, the truth is, you can’t have any problems, you just need to get good at finding solutions. There is nothing more empowering than trusting in your ability to be able to solve any challenge that comes your way. When you take this mental approach, your challenges become opportunities.

I have created an EFT tapping sequence to help you release the frustration and overwhelm associated with seeing life as one big challenge and accept that ‘shit happens’, so you can move forward confidently and become a good problem solver.

Firstly, rate this statement on a scale of 0 (meaning it’s not true for you) and 10 (meaning it’s really intense for you).

“I’m so tired of having all this shit happen in my life”

Karate Chop:

Even though I am tired of moving from one problem to the next and my life really sucks, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though nothing seems to work for me and I’m frustrated by the amount of problems I have in my life, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.

Even though my shit just keeps happening to me and I feel overwhelmed and frustrated, I profoundly love and accept all of me.

Eyebrow: I’m so tired of all this shit happening in my life

Outside Eye: Why can’t life be easy for a change?

Under Eye: I feel so overwhelmed by all the problems I have

Under Nose: Nothing ever seems to work for me

Chin: I feel so frustrated and fed up that I keep sabotaging myself

Collar Bone: It’s not fair that I have to fight my way through all these problems

Under Arm: Life isn’t supposed to be this hard

Top of Head: Why does this shit keep happening to me?

Eyebrow: I’m so fed up with nothing working for me.

Outside Eye: I’m so tired of living in Ground Hog day

Under Eye: Every time I turn around there’s another problem

Under Nose: I wish life was easier and I didn’t have all these problems

Chin: I did not expect life to turn out this way for me

Collar Bone: I don’t know why I even bother trying

Under Arm: I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated

Top of Head: I’m so tired of never achieving my goals

Eyebrow: Nothing ever works for me

Outside Eye: Everything I try turns to shit

Under Eye: I feel buried in problems

Under Nose: I’m so tired, overwhelmed and frustrated

Chin: I just can’t seem to get a break

Collar Bone: It’s not fair, my life really sucks

Under Arm: I wish I could just get a break and everything was easy

Top of Head: I’m so tired of having so much shit happen in my life

Take a deep breath. Now go back and rate that statement: “I’m tired of having all this shit happen in my life”. Keep tapping on these phrases, or ones that are more appropriate for you, until you have brought the rating down to a two or below and then continue on to the positive tapping round.

Karate Chop:

Even though I still feel frustrated and overwhelmed by all the shit happening in my life, I choose to focus more on solutions than on the problems.

Even though I’m tired of my life being an endless series of problems, I choose to focus on finding solutions to the various problems that arise.

Even though I still want my life to be easier without all these problems, I choose to accept that sometimes shit happens and to find positive solutions when it does.

Eyebrow:  I still feel overwhelmed and frustrated

Outside Eye: It’s really depressing to think life is made up of problems

Under Eye: I can’t just accept that this is the way life is

Under Nose: It’s no fun at all having all these problems

Chin: What if it’s not as bad as I think

Collar Bone: If I could find a solution, I wouldn’t have a problem

Under Arm: I choose to accept that shit happens sometimes

Top of Head: What if all these problems are blessings in disguise

Eyebrow: How can all this shit be a blessing?

Outside Eye: It sure doesn’t feel like it right now

Under Eye: But I’m sure there’s a blessing in this somewhere

Under Nose: It would be very satisfying to find solutions to these problems

Chin: I know that the Universe doesn’t send me anything I can’t handle

Collar Bone: Which means I am capable of finding solutions to these challenges

Under Arm: I choose to be open to finding solutions

Top of Head: It’s a fact of life that shit happens

Eyebrow: So I choose to accept that and be great at solving my problems

Outside Eye: Even though I don’t know how right now

Under Eye: I choose to be open to finding solutions to all my problems

Under Nose: I choose to let go of my overwhelm and frustration

Chin: I know there are people who have solved similar problems before

Collar Bone: I’m ready to get out of being stuck in my problems

Under Arm: I love the satisfaction that I feel when I solve a problem

Top of Head: And I love the satisfaction of knowing I can solve any problem, even these ones.

Take a deep breath. Now go back and rate that statement: “I’m tired of having all this shit happen in my life”.

Keep tapping until you feel confident that you are able to find solutions to any problems that come to you. And in the future, when shit happens, just start tapping so you can stop being overwhelmed by the problem and get on with finding a solution.

EFT is a great solution to so many problems !

10 Tips for Making 2012 Great

Most people have given up on, or conveniently forgotten their NY resolutions by the 15th of January each year. How are you going with yours? If you have given up in resignation, or if you didn’t make any resolutions because you have not stuck to them before, it’s never too late to re-affirm your commitment and start again.

Here are some tips to keep you inspired to achieve your goals this year:

  1. Identify what area of your life you really want to improve and get really clear about how you want it look. Be very specific about where you are now and where you want to be.
  2. Focus on just one or two major goals for the year. It’s better to achieve one or two things that will really make a difference to your life than make lots of goals and never reach any of them.
  3. Make your goals achievable – It’s great to challenge yourself, but if you bite off more than you can chew, then your probably never going to get started, or will give up quickly, because the reality of it is so overwhelming.
  4. Form them in a way that is inspiring for you. e.g. If you want to lose weight, don’t just state “I want to lose 5kg”. This is not very inspiring. Find a favorite outfit / piece of clothing, in your wardrobe that you haven’t been able to fit into and make it your goal to fit into it by a particular date. Or have a particular event in mind and make your goal to wow your friends at the event in a new outfit. Or wearing your swim suit during summer with confidence. I think you get the idea.
  5. Chunk your goals down into shorter term goals. e.g. 12 months, 6 months, 3 months, 1 month, 1 week, 1 day.
  6. Write all your goals down and keep them in a place where you can see them and remind yourself of what you are committed to achieving this year. This is even better if done as a vision board.
  7. Identify what new habits you need to adopt to get you there and keep you there.
  8. Uncover and let go of whatever belief systems have been blocking you from achieving this in the past. You will have to if you want real change.
  9. Review your goals regularly and adjust them as you need to.
  10. Get a coach or somebody whom you are accountable to and report to them on a pre-arranged regular basis and make sure they are not going to allow you to make excuses and let you off the hook. Accountability is key to your success at achieving anything.

Anthony Robbins says there is the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. Which do you choose to experience this year?

EFT for Forgiveness

Forgiveness

Energy is precious. It is the essence of everything, including us. And energy directed somewhere is spent and unavailable to be directed somewhere else. If you spend energy in worry, fear, anxiety, guilt or shame, it is not available to help you create a better future for yourself and others.

Many of us spend more energy blaming ourselves or others for our failures and lack of success. No matter how validated we feel in this pursuit, this is time and energy wasted in a pointless activity that will not achieve anything. It won’t make us feel better and it certainly won’t change the situation.

What if we could forgive ourselves and others unreservedly, take responsibility for our results, and redirect that energy to creating a difference in our lives and in the lives of many others?

With EFT, you can release yourself from negative emotions that drain your energy and stop you from realizing your goals and dreams, thereby giving you the freedom to achieve greater and greater things that could not only transform your life, but the lives of many others as well.

The following EFT sequence will help to release you from shame, guilt and blame so you can get on with being successful and wealthy.

First rate the statement “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve” on a scale of 0 to 10. This statement can relate to what your expectations of you, as well as others expectations of you.

Set Up Phrase

Karate Chop Point:
Even though I can’t forgive myself for all the times I have failed and made mistakes, I deeply and completely forgive myself.

Even though I feel ashamed about my failures and all the times in my life I have made bad choices, I profoundly love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I have done some things and made some choices that are unforgiveable, I choose to deeply and completely love and forgive myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I am so ashamed of the number of times I have failed
Outside Eye: Nobody has failed as much as I have
Under Eye: I’m so disappointed with myself
Under Nose: I don’t think I can ever forgive myself for being such a huge failure.
Chin: I’ve really let myself down
Collar Bone: And I’ve let other people down
Under Arm:
Because I haven’t tried hard enough
Top of Head: I don’t deserve forgiveness
Eyebrow: Because sometimes I’ve been lazy
Outside Eye: And I haven’t always given my best
Under Eye: I haven’t followed through
Under Nose: I haven’t been true to my world
Chin: I haven’t been true to me
Collar Bone: I’ve sabotaged myself so many times
Under Arm: I truly can’t forgive some of the mistakes I’ve made
Top of Head: I haven’t lived up to my expectations
Eyebrow: And I haven’t lived up to the expectations of others
Outside Eye: I’ve made some stupid mistakes
Under Eye: I’ve squandered so much time and energy on meaningless activities
Under Nose: When I should have been focusing on the things I had to do to achieve my goals
Chin: I feel ashamed of some of the poor choices I have made.
Collar Bone: I don’t feel good enough to be wealthy and successful.
Under Arm: I can’t possibly forgive myself when I’ve made so many mistakes.
Top of Head: I don’t deserve to be forgiven because I’ve failed to live up to mine and everybody else’s expectations

Now return and rate the statement: “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve”. If the rating has come down to a 2 or below, then continue on to the positive tapping round. If you haven’t come down that far yet, just keep tapping with the phrases above, or ones that are more appropriate and specific to your situation until you have.

Positive Tapping:

Karate Chop:
Even though I still have this feeling that I deserve to suffer for being such a failure, I choose to love and forgive myself anyway.

Even though I still feel like my laziness / inefficiency / lack of focus is unforgivable, I deeply and completely love and forgive who I am and how I feel.

Even though I don’t know how I’m ever going to forgive myself for being such an under achiever when I have so much potential, I choose to forgive myself anyway and use that energy to move forward with confidence and enthusiasm.

Eyebrow: I have been lazy and inefficient and I haven’t been focused enough
Outside Eye: But I choose to acknowledge that I’ve been doing the best I can
Under Eye: Even if I feel it’s not good enough
Under Nose: Just because I haven’t achieved all my goals yet
Chin: Doesn’t mean I’m a bad person or a failure
Collar Bone: It just means I have some subconscious programming that is stopping me
Under Arm: It’s not really all my fault
Top of Head: And now that I recognize it, I choose to forgive myself
Eyebrow: I could have achieved a lot more by now if I’d had the right subconscious programming
Outside Eye: But it’s okay because I can start to turn that around right now
Under Eye: And the first thing I choose to do is forgive myself
Under Nose: I choose to have compassion and understanding for myself
Chin: I choose to be kind to myself
Collar Bone: I am a good person, I just need to adjust a few things
Under Arm: After all, success is a learning process.
Top of Head: And I love to learn new skills and information
Eyebrow: I choose to forgive my lack of results
Outside Eye: And know that I am capable of achieving whatever I put my mind to.
Under Eye: I just need to adopt the right subconscious programming
Under Nose: And I’m starting to do that right now
Chin: I choose to be proud of the fact that I haven’t given up
Collar Bone: I can’t fail until I give up
Under Arm: I choose to have compassion and understanding for me
Top of Head: And I choose to forgive myself for not achieving my goals yet and focus enthusiastically on reprogramming my subconscious to have a successful and wealthy mindset.

Again rate the statement: “I can’t forgive myself for all the times I haven’t achieved what I set out to achieve”. Keep tapping until you bring the rating right down to zero.

There may be other things you need to forgive yourself for that you feel ashamed and guilty about which makes you feel unworthy to be successful and wealthy. Perhaps you did something to someone that was not very nice and hurt someone. Or maybe there’s something you didn’t do, that you feel you should have done. You may need to ask another person for their forgiveness which can be extremely healing and release you from terrible burdens. There are dozens of reasons why we end up on a permanent guilt trip which saps our energy and prevents us from feeling worthy of realizing our dreams.

EFT is capable of eliminating all of those negative feelings that are draining your energy and preventing you from living to your full potential. Adopt EFT as a part of your lifestyle and use it everyday and your life will be transformed in a relatively short amount of time.

Take care and Happy Tapping.

Take Your Power Back With EFT

Do you feel powerless? Hopeless? Like there’s no point putting a lot of effort into your future because it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to? Do you feel as if you have no control over your own life?

The truth is we have been conditioned to give our power away to people and situations in our lives for centuries. We carry this disempowerment in our cellular memory from past lives, past generations and from our current history. Because we don’t know any better, we allow it to dictate our present moment and the outcomes of our future by giving our power away. And often we give up because having given our power away, we feel powerless, disempowered, hopeless. It feels like there’s no use.

Can you relate to any of those feelings?

If you want different results, it’s time to take your power back. Time to take charge of your life and be the captain of your own ship and create your own destiny by design, instead of default. Don’t allow other people, events and outside influences to dictate how successful and happy you are. To do so makes you a victim to circumstance and as long as you are being a victim, you will be at the mercy of life.

Taking your power back does not mean you have to dis-empower or bully others. It means being confident in your own being and not allowing external situations to influence the decisions you make or actions you take in your own life. It is up to you to decide what is for your highest good and define your life accordingly.

There will always be outside events and people that affect our lives, but the ultimate outcome for you is determined by how you respond to those.

So think for a moment where you have given your power away. There will probably be several areas where you have allowed yourself to be disempowered and possible hundreds even thousands of events that have occurred. Choose the memory that feels the most intense when you think about it.

How does it make you feel to know you gave your power away? Sad? Angry? Frustrated? Disappointed? Powerless? Hopeless? Weak?

The following EFT tapping script is going to focus on the feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness, however, you can substitute any of the above feelings, or others that may be more appropriate for you to do the tapping. And if you have several feelings around this, then keep doing the EFT until you have got them all down to a 1 or a 0.

Make the statement: “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.” Rate the truth of that statement on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could possibly be.

Now tap along on the points with the following script, substituting different words and phrases that are more appropriate to your circumstances if you need to.

Set Up – Karate Chop Point

Even though I have given all my power away to this situation, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Even though I feel so disempowered because I allowed it / them to take my power away, I choose to love and respect myself anyway.

Even though I gave my power away and have been left feeling hopeless and powerless, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.

Tapping Through the Points:

Eyebrow: I feel so powerless

Outside Eye: I gave all my power away to this situation / person

Under Eye: I gave up even trying because it feels so hopeless

Under Nose: It’s not fair that they took away all my power

Chin: And I was stupid to let them

Collar Bone: I didn’t stand a chance

Under Arm: They were too powerful for me

Top of Head: They completely over ran me and made me feel powerless

Eyebrow: No wonder I haven’t been able to be successful

Outside Eye: I should have known better

Under Eye: I should have been stronger

Under Nose: It’s just hopeless

Chin: There’s no way I can succeed

Collar Bone: I let them run all over me

Under Arm: This situation / person completely took all my power away

Top of Head: And there have been many other times too

Eyebrow: I’ve got no power left because I gave it all away

Outside Eye: I feel so hopeless and disempowered

Under Eye: How am I ever going to succeed when people and things stop me

Under Nose: Why do I keep giving my power away?

Chin: They / this took all my power away from me

Collar Bone: It’s not my fault

Under Arm: I feel completely powerless and hopeless

Tope of Head: And there’s no point trying because I don’t have the power to succeed

Now, take a deep breath and again say out loud “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.” and rate the truth of that statement on a scale of 0 to 10.

You may need to focus more on the negative to bring the feeling down to a at least a 1 or a 2 before proceeding. Again, say it the way it is. How you are feeling and what is appropriate for you. The more you get in touch with your own feelings, the more effective this is going to be.

Now we are going to do a positive round of tapping.

Set Up Statement – Karate Chop Point

Even though I still feel this sense of powerlessness and it makes me feel really sad, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.

Even though I gave my power away and have been held back all these years because if it, I profoundly love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I allowed them / it to take my power away, I choose to love and accept myself and know that I have been doing my best all along.

Tapping Through The Points

Eyebrow: How could I give all my power away like that?

Outside Eye: That was just stupid

Under Eye: And now I choose to forgive myself

Under Nose: And take my power back

Chin: I choose to know I can take all my power back right now

Collar Bone: I choose to take control over my life

Under Arm: I didn’t know any better before

Top of Head: And that’s ok

Eyebrow: Because now I choose to take my power back

Outside Eye: I choose to be captain of my own ship

Under Eye: If it’s meant to be, it’s up to me

Under Nose: I’ve had some set backs

Chin: But everybody has those

Collar Bone: I choose to know I can over come anything

Under Arm: I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I can achieve anything.

Top of Head: I choose to know in my physical being and my etheric being that I am infinitely powerful

Eyebrow: And I can achieve anything I set my mind to

Outside Eye: I choose to take all my power back right now

Under Eye: I love feeling powerful and knowing I am in control of my destiny

Under Nose: They / It doesn’t have any power over me any more

Chin: Because I choose to take all my power back

Collar Bone: And take positive action toward my goals

Under Arm: Even if it doesn’t turn out perfectly straight away

Top of Head: I know I have the power to eventually achieve anything I want and I love feeling my infinite power and knowing I am capable of achieving anything I set my mind to.

Take a deep breath and again rate that statement: “I have given all my power away and feel completely powerless.”

Keep assessing your feeling of powerlessness / hopelessness in the days to come. If a situation comes up where you feel powerless then tap again. You will probably find more feelings and aspects associated with your feelings of powerlessness that you haven’t explored yet.

Remember, you are a work in progress, and everything is perfect right now, and it will take time for you to heal deep wounds that have occurred during this life time and others so you can reach the point that you are living to your full potential and living the life of your dreams.

Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, be patient and expect miracles and magic in your life.

Take care and happy tapping,
Marguerita

The Secret To Having Anything You Want

As a society we are notorious for being dissatisfied with our lives and for an insatiable appetite for wanting more and more ‘stuff’. Generally speaking, much of this stuff is meaningless to the heart and soul and will not bring happiness, just more wanting and more discontent.

It is a part of human nature to want to create. Because we are continually expanding and seeking more ways to express our infinite selves, we are insatiable creators. This is a good thing as long as we are consciously creating what is best for our highest good and the highest good of all. This kind of creating is soul food.

And experiencing having beautiful, fun things in our lives is a wonderful opportunity we have and compliments our spirituality and overall wellbeing. The belief that if we are spiritual then we cannot be wealthy and have everything our hearts desire is complete nonsense and you are doing yourself a grave injustice if you believe this.

The reason most people do not ever attain what they really want in life is because they ‘want it’ too much. It’s great to have a desire for things and you cannot create unless you have this desire. But the state of ‘wanting’ will just perpetuate the state of ‘wanting’.

So how do you get what you want? Stop wanting it!

I know, it sounds like a complete contradiction, so let me explain.

Put your desire out the Universe and then give thanks for already having it. You don’t want what you already have, so turn your attention to how grateful you are for the things you do have in your life, including the thing you desire.

Keep doing this many times each day. Focus on what you desire, picture yourself already having it, enjoying it, appreciating it and give thanks for it. There is no more powerful attracting force than gratitude. And once your subconscious believes you already have it, then it cannot help but attract it into your life.

Confused? I’m not surprised. It’s the same as the old saying ‘Be, Do, Have’. If you act as if you would when you are living your perfect life, then you will have your perfect life. This concept is alien to many people because we have been trying to do things in reverse for so many years. If your manifesting is not working the way you are doing it, then try it this way. Issue your request, then give thanks for already having it. Miracles happen when gratitude is your focus.

Want Better Answers? Ask Better Questions!

Success, happiness, abundance, freedom. None of these conditions will turn up in your life by accident. Either consciously or subconsciously, you must create them in your life, and to do that, you need to ask yourself the right questions.

Do you keep asking yourself questions like:

“Why can’t I get a break?”
“Why can’t I get ahead?”
“Why am I so unlucky?”
“How come bad stuff happens to me all the time?”
“Why do I keep getting ripped off?”
“What am I doing wrong?”
……………. etc, etc, etc.

Do you notice any relationship between these questions?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. As soon as you put any question out into the atmosphere through thought, word or deed, your subconscious immediately looks for an answer to affirm that question.

For example, if you ask the question in your mind, “Why can’t I get a break?”, the subconscious will immediately get to work looking for reasons why you can’t get a break and deliver those answers to you in your every day reality. You will experience sabotage all over the place through people and circumstances in your life.

This is because the subconscious mind has 3 jobs. The first one is to keep the status quo. The subconscious mind does not like change, and as long as it perceives that you are not in any immediate danger, it will work to keep things the same.

It’s second job is to keep you in whatever it perceives to be safe circumstances. Even if you don’t feel safe, your subconscious finds your situation safer than the alternative for whatever reason.

And third, it looks for ways to prove you right. So if you ask the question, “Why can’t I get a break?” your subconscious will bring people, events and circumstances into your awareness that will show you why and you will continue to experience problem after problem to stop you from achieving your goals and dreams.

The good news is that you can use this quirk of the subconscious mind to your advantage. Imagine what happens if you turn those questions around. If you ask the question “Why am I so successful?” instead of “Why am I such a failure?”, your subconscious will look for answers to that question and your entire world will change. People, situations and opportunities will present themselves to show you why you’re so successful. And even if you have felt like a failure up until now, suddenly your will start to see areas in your life where you have succeeded that you had completely overlooked before. Your self-esteem and belief in your ability with improve and different results will follow.

You can continue to be thwarted by your subconscious, or you can become a conscious player in the game of life and stack the odds in your favour by putting your subconscious to work for you and not against you.

Become aware of the questions you are automatically asking about yourself and your life, turn them around to a positive focus, and then watch in amazement as miracles and magic conspire to help you succeed, rather than fail.