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Scientific studies have shown that each one of us has our own ‘happiness set point’. This means that no matter what happens to us, we are pre-programmed to return to a particular level of happiness within 12 months. So even if you have a tragic event happen, or an out of this world fabulous event, it is highly likely that within a period of 12 months you will return to the same level of happiness you were at before the event occurred.
This happiness set point is determined 50% by your DNA and 50% by your environment and your programmed responses to it. So you may have been fortunate enough, like myself, to come in with a happy disposition already present in your personality, or you may have been born with a more serious nature that finds happiness more difficult.
The good news is, that no matter what your DNA dictates, you have complete control over the other 50% of your level of happiness and you can reprogram yourself to be happy, no matter what.
There is a fabulous book by Marci Schimoff called “Happy For No Reason”. In this book Marci has interviewed 100 of the happiest people in the world to determine what the common underlying theme was for all these people. She then goes on to give practical tips and exercises to help you to raise your happiness set point and learn how to be ‘Happy for No Reason’. I highly recommend this book.
For most of us, we’re expecting our external conditions to all fall into perfect place before we are happy. We have made our happiness conditional. At first inspection, this seems perfectly reasonable and you’re probably wondering how on earth you can be happy if things aren’t going well for you. Well, the truth is, true happiness is unconditional. It comes from a place within us and is not reliant on external conditions to be present. It is already there, we just have to let go of all the crap that’s covering it up to feel happy.
Now I know you’re probably thinking, ‘But you don’t know what my life’s like. If you knew how much crap I’ve got going on, you’d know that I could never be happy.” And I understand why you feel that way.
Many people are suffering some grave situations right now and it may seem impossible to be happy even when things look so grave. But believe me, it’s possible to be happy no matter what. It’s all about making a different choice and choosing to be happy regardless of whatever else is going on in your life.
I understand even the concept of this can be difficult to wrap your mind around let alone know how to achieve this utopian ideal of happiness and bliss regardless of what’s going on in your life. And no, I am not on drugs. Never have, nor will I ever take drugs to achieve an altered mind state because I know that I can do it without artificial aids and it’s sooooooo much better without all the lethal consequences.
The fact is that our brain is wired to focus on the negative and that’s what makes us unhappy. All of us have reasons to be sad, angry, frustrated, upset, overwhelmed, etc. The truth is everybody also has reasons to be happy, even when you feel like you don’t, and it’s the people who look beyond the negative stuff in their lives and focus on the reasons they have to be happy that are the happiest of all.
It’s not about ignoring the bad stuff, it’s about making it less important than the good stuff. You are supposed to feel good. And when you change the way you think, you can. It won’t happy instantly as you’re training your brain a new way of being, but it will all be worth it if you stick with it.
So following you will find an Emotional Freedom Technique sequence which, when used frequently, will help you to be happier more often and regardless of what’s happening in your life.
So firstly I want you to rate this phrase on a scale of 0 (not true for you) and 10 (the most true it could possibly be).
“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”
Even though I know I won’t be happy until all my problems are solved and things turn out the way I want them to, I choose to accept how my life is right now.
Even though I can’t be happy until my life is sorted and I get what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though I’m never happy because my life sucks and I can’t imagine being happy with the problems I have, I accept how my life is and how I feel about it.
Eyebrow: My life sucks and I’ve got nothing to be happy about
Outside Eye: Everything’s wrong with my life
Under Eye: How could I possibly be happy with my life as it is
Under Nose: I don’t even believe happiness exists
Chin: How can it when everything is in the toilet
Collar Bone: I can’t see any reason to be happy
Under Arm: I’m always struggling and nothing works out
Top of Head: I have all these problems
Eyebrow: My life is in chaos
Outside Eye: I’ve got plenty of reasons not to be happy
Under Eye: If she took a walk in my shoes, she’d know why I can’t be happy
Under Nose: Every day is a struggle just to get through it
Chin: Even thinking about trying to be happy makes me sad
Collar Bone: I feel so sad by what’s going on in my life
Under Arm: I feel depressed when I look at my life
Top of Head: I am over being sad and unhappy
Eyebrow: But I don’t have a choice
Outside Eye: There’s no way I could be happy with they way things are
Under Eye: What a ridiculous idea
Under Nose: I can’t remember the last time I was really happy
Chin: Until my life improves, there is no way I can feel happy
Collar Bone: I have too much to be sad and angry and frustrated about
Under Arm: Don’t talk to me about happiness!
Top of Head: I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works
Now take a deep breath and go back and rate the statement:
“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”
Keep tapping on those phrases or ones that work for you until you bring that rating down to at least a 2 before moving on to the positive tapping phrase below.
Now take a few minutes to make a list of 10 reasons that you could be happy about. They don’t need to be earth shattering. Just choose some little things like the air you breathe, that you have a house to live in, that you woke up this morning, that it’s a beautiful day, that you have found EFT, that you are able to read this article. Simple, everyday things that you could be happy about.
Even though I still can’t image being happy because my life really sucks, I am open to feeling just a little bit happier right now.
Even though I have so many reasons not to be happy, I’m willing to look for reasons I could be happy and focus on those instead.
Even though I can’t remember the last time I was really happy, and no wonder considering all the crap that’s gone on in my life, I choose to relax and be open to finding reasons to feel even just a little bit happy.
Eyebrow: I have so many reasons not to be happy
Outside Eye: And I can’t imagine feeling happiness right now
Under Eye: Maybe I have some things in my life to be happy about
Under Nose: But there are many more reasons to be unhappy
Chin: What if I focused on the happy stuff
Collar Bone: Maybe I could feel a little bit happier
Under Arm: But the bad stuff is so overwhelming
Top of Head: What if I could be happy even with all this crap in my life
Eyebrow: Wouldn’t it be nice if I could feel happy right now
Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be just a little bit happy
Under Eye: Even though my life is such a mess
Under Nose: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now
Chin: I resolve to focus on the things I can be happy about
Collar Bone: I love knowing that underneath all these bad feelings
Under Arm: There is a happy me waiting to be discovered
Top of Head: I give myself permission to be happy no matter what
Eyebrow: I choose to feel a little bit happier right now
Outside Eye: I give myself permission to be happy right now
Under Eye: I love the thought of feeling happy no matter what
Under Nose: Even though I’ve still got heaps of reasons to be unhappy
Chin: I’ve also got plenty of reasons to be happy
Collar Bone: I choose to focus on those and allow myself to be a little bit happier
Under Arm: I love feeling good about myself and feeling happy inside
Top of Head: I have so many reasons to be happy and I choose to focus on those.
And take a deep breath and rate the statement again:
“I can’t be happy until my life is perfect and everything works”
The more you work with this kind of EFT tapping sequence, the better your life will appear to be and the happier you will be.
Take care and happy tapping.
That’s right! I am going to go against the trend and tell you that the age old belief that ‘Money can’t buy happiness’ is a myth and you need to vanquish it from your memory and your programming forever.
The obvious argument for the original statement that ‘money can’t buy happiness’ is clear. Happiness comes from within, and there are plenty of wealthy and successful people who are unfulfilled and desperately unhappy. I am not disputing that for a second.
And I’m not talking about being able to buy more ‘stuff’ that will make you happy. This is a recipe for disaster and will pretty much guarantee failure in your pursuit of happiness as more stuff is simply another distraction from what you really need which is personal fulfilment on all levels: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
My position in this debate is this: it’s not that money can’t buy happiness, but that money doesn’t necessarily buy you happiness. Money can most definitely buy you happiness when you are spending it wisely in ways that will help you to rediscover happiness.
Happiness is a state of being that exists within us regardless of our situation, it’s just that more often than not it has paled into insignificance because of all the stress, worry, anger, fear, frustration, sadness, guilt, shame, overwhelm, etc, etc, etc. It’s not that we aren’t happy, it’s just that the happiness has been swamped by a multitude of other negative emotions. The happiness is still inside us waiting to rise above all the other conditions.
So, if this is true, how can money buy happiness?
Well, what is the best way to release all your negative emotions to rediscover your true inner peace and happiness? Healing, personal development and reconnecting with who you truly are!
And what is almost essential to help you experience the most powerful form of healing and personal development? Money!
Sure, we all have within us everything we need to be our beautiful, magnificent, awesomeness and share it with the world. However, in my experience, it can be almost impossible to raise your head out of the emotional quagmire to be able to reach that place inside on your own. Having someone to guide you to that place inside of you and help you release all the other crap is so much more effective and efficient.
And there are plenty of incredible healers and specialists available who have made it their life’s work to do just that. The fact of the matter is that they charge money for their services, and rightly so. And the more well known they are, the more money they charge.
It’s important to note that just because they are more well known, doesn’t mean they are necessarily the best. It just means they have marketed themselves more effectively to be seen as the expert.
Money will also give you the time freedom you need to be able to spend it focusing on your healing and personal development to realize true and lasting happiness.
And if you have money, you can invest it in acquiring the tools, information and resources you require to live a life of purpose, passion and fulfilment.
So in fact, money will never be the source of your happiness. Having a constant in flow of money will help you feel financially secure, but it is the way you utilise the money that will ultimately assist you in rediscovering your true state of joy and happiness.
Money is a tool that gives you access to everything you need to engage in a fulfilling and satisfying life. So do whatever you can to eliminate your negative belief systems around money. It’s time you gave yourself permission to be successful and wealthy and do whatever you came here to do so the rest of the world can benefit!
Do you find yourself rolling from one challenge to the next? Do you feel like nothing ever works for you? Are you fed up with having something to wrong every time you turn a corner?
Welcome to life my friend! Life is a continuous cycle of challenges and problems to solve. And successful people are not immune to this. In fact, the more successful you become, the bigger and more frequent the challenges become. The difference is successful people are great at finding solutions and don’t get stuck in the problem.
And fortunately, as you become more successful, the quality of the problems improves. Instead of worrying about how you are going to feed your family, your questioning how you can make a bigger profit. Or how you can turn what seems like adverse business conditions to your advantage.
I apologize if you are offended by mild profanity, but the truth is, ‘Shit Happens’. It always has and it always will. There are only two variables:
- How deep the shit is.
- How adept and creative you are at finding a solution to the shit.
The Universe will never throw anything at you that you can’t handle. And honestly, sometimes life really sucks. The question is what are you going to do about it? If you are intent on staying focused on the problem complaining that nothing ever works for you and blaming the situation or person for your predicament, then your life will be an endless cycle of struggle, frustration and pain.
On the other hand, if you are determined to become creative and resourceful and be solution focused, you will find life a very rewarding, exhilarating experience, and you will travel from one success to the next with a sense of eagerness and excitement. As you get better at solving problems, you may even start to enjoy them and how they bring out the best in you. You learn far more from your challenges than you do from the times in your life that are easy. Although, we all benefit from those too. Everybody needs a break right!
On the one hand we have been programmed to believe that life wasn’t meant to be easy, and on the other we have this unrealistic expectation that at some point all the challenges will stop coming and life will be just smooth sailing.
The reality is shit will continue to happen. That’s a fact. And you can choose to see life as an endless struggle and stay stuck, frustrated and overwhelmed, or you can see it as your construction site where things don’t always go the way you want them to and you need to adjust your plans accordingly and find solutions so you can build the life you truly desire.
A problem is only a problem when you can’t find a solution. And there is a solution for every problem. When you take this approach, the truth is, you can’t have any problems, you just need to get good at finding solutions. There is nothing more empowering than trusting in your ability to be able to solve any challenge that comes your way. When you take this mental approach, your challenges become opportunities.
I have created an EFT tapping sequence to help you release the frustration and overwhelm associated with seeing life as one big challenge and accept that ‘shit happens’, so you can move forward confidently and become a good problem solver.
Firstly, rate this statement on a scale of 0 (meaning it’s not true for you) and 10 (meaning it’s really intense for you).
“I’m so tired of having all this shit happen in my life”
Even though I am tired of moving from one problem to the next and my life really sucks, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though nothing seems to work for me and I’m frustrated by the amount of problems I have in my life, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Even though my shit just keeps happening to me and I feel overwhelmed and frustrated, I profoundly love and accept all of me.
Eyebrow: I’m so tired of all this shit happening in my life
Outside Eye: Why can’t life be easy for a change?
Under Eye: I feel so overwhelmed by all the problems I have
Under Nose: Nothing ever seems to work for me
Chin: I feel so frustrated and fed up that I keep sabotaging myself
Collar Bone: It’s not fair that I have to fight my way through all these problems
Under Arm: Life isn’t supposed to be this hard
Top of Head: Why does this shit keep happening to me?
Eyebrow: I’m so fed up with nothing working for me.
Outside Eye: I’m so tired of living in Ground Hog day
Under Eye: Every time I turn around there’s another problem
Under Nose: I wish life was easier and I didn’t have all these problems
Chin: I did not expect life to turn out this way for me
Collar Bone: I don’t know why I even bother trying
Under Arm: I feel so overwhelmed and frustrated
Top of Head: I’m so tired of never achieving my goals
Eyebrow: Nothing ever works for me
Outside Eye: Everything I try turns to shit
Under Eye: I feel buried in problems
Under Nose: I’m so tired, overwhelmed and frustrated
Chin: I just can’t seem to get a break
Collar Bone: It’s not fair, my life really sucks
Under Arm: I wish I could just get a break and everything was easy
Top of Head: I’m so tired of having so much shit happen in my life
Take a deep breath. Now go back and rate that statement: “I’m tired of having all this shit happen in my life”. Keep tapping on these phrases, or ones that are more appropriate for you, until you have brought the rating down to a two or below and then continue on to the positive tapping round.
Even though I still feel frustrated and overwhelmed by all the shit happening in my life, I choose to focus more on solutions than on the problems.
Even though I’m tired of my life being an endless series of problems, I choose to focus on finding solutions to the various problems that arise.
Even though I still want my life to be easier without all these problems, I choose to accept that sometimes shit happens and to find positive solutions when it does.
Eyebrow: I still feel overwhelmed and frustrated
Outside Eye: It’s really depressing to think life is made up of problems
Under Eye: I can’t just accept that this is the way life is
Under Nose: It’s no fun at all having all these problems
Chin: What if it’s not as bad as I think
Collar Bone: If I could find a solution, I wouldn’t have a problem
Under Arm: I choose to accept that shit happens sometimes
Top of Head: What if all these problems are blessings in disguise
Eyebrow: How can all this shit be a blessing?
Outside Eye: It sure doesn’t feel like it right now
Under Eye: But I’m sure there’s a blessing in this somewhere
Under Nose: It would be very satisfying to find solutions to these problems
Chin: I know that the Universe doesn’t send me anything I can’t handle
Collar Bone: Which means I am capable of finding solutions to these challenges
Under Arm: I choose to be open to finding solutions
Top of Head: It’s a fact of life that shit happens
Eyebrow: So I choose to accept that and be great at solving my problems
Outside Eye: Even though I don’t know how right now
Under Eye: I choose to be open to finding solutions to all my problems
Under Nose: I choose to let go of my overwhelm and frustration
Chin: I know there are people who have solved similar problems before
Collar Bone: I’m ready to get out of being stuck in my problems
Under Arm: I love the satisfaction that I feel when I solve a problem
Top of Head: And I love the satisfaction of knowing I can solve any problem, even these ones.
Take a deep breath. Now go back and rate that statement: “I’m tired of having all this shit happen in my life”.
Keep tapping until you feel confident that you are able to find solutions to any problems that come to you. And in the future, when shit happens, just start tapping so you can stop being overwhelmed by the problem and get on with finding a solution.
EFT is a great solution to so many problems !
Most people have given up on, or conveniently forgotten their NY resolutions by the 15th of January each year. How are you going with yours? If you have given up in resignation, or if you didn’t make any resolutions because you have not stuck to them before, it’s never too late to re-affirm your commitment and start again.
Here are some tips to keep you inspired to achieve your goals this year:
- Identify what area of your life you really want to improve and get really clear about how you want it look. Be very specific about where you are now and where you want to be.
- Focus on just one or two major goals for the year. It’s better to achieve one or two things that will really make a difference to your life than make lots of goals and never reach any of them.
- Make your goals achievable – It’s great to challenge yourself, but if you bite off more than you can chew, then your probably never going to get started, or will give up quickly, because the reality of it is so overwhelming.
- Form them in a way that is inspiring for you. e.g. If you want to lose weight, don’t just state “I want to lose 5kg”. This is not very inspiring. Find a favorite outfit / piece of clothing, in your wardrobe that you haven’t been able to fit into and make it your goal to fit into it by a particular date. Or have a particular event in mind and make your goal to wow your friends at the event in a new outfit. Or wearing your swim suit during summer with confidence. I think you get the idea.
- Chunk your goals down into shorter term goals. e.g. 12 months, 6 months, 3 months, 1 month, 1 week, 1 day.
- Write all your goals down and keep them in a place where you can see them and remind yourself of what you are committed to achieving this year. This is even better if done as a vision board.
- Identify what new habits you need to adopt to get you there and keep you there.
- Uncover and let go of whatever belief systems have been blocking you from achieving this in the past. You will have to if you want real change.
- Review your goals regularly and adjust them as you need to.
- Get a coach or somebody whom you are accountable to and report to them on a pre-arranged regular basis and make sure they are not going to allow you to make excuses and let you off the hook. Accountability is key to your success at achieving anything.
Anthony Robbins says there is the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. Which do you choose to experience this year?
Do you have a belief that it’s selfish or greedy to be wealthy? Do you feel that if you have more others will have less?
Let me ask you a couple of other questions. If you are struggling financially, how is that serving yourself and others? If all your needs and wants were met and you had the financial freedom to do whatever you wanted, what could you do to help others?
I’m not going to beat around the bush here. We are at a critical point in our evolution. We have a massive health crisis, a worsening wealth crisis and because of our actions, our planet is also in crisis and needs our assistance.
Do you think the governments of the world are going to solve each and every one of these crises? Do you think the lottery is your best chance of becoming financially free? What if you have a lot more power than you realize to change your own future and the future of our world as we know it, you just have to release yourself from limiting beliefs that aren’t even yours?
The good news is, you do and you can! And the critical point is, YOU MUST!
I personally released myself from my blocks to wealth, success and freedom through the power EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, and Sound Healing. If you are ready to do the same, then please register for the 6 free EFT videos on the right hand side of this page.
Richard Branson has stated that it is the entrepreneurs of the world who is going to save our species and our planet. It is people like him and Oprah Winfrey and Bill Gates and Warren Buffet, all of them multi-billionaires from very humble beginnings, who are redistributing their wealth to places that really need it. And you don’t need to be a billionaire to make a difference, you just need to be financially free.
Many of us have been programmed to believe that wanting more than we need is greedy and selfish, when the truth is the opposite. Being wealthy, looking after your own needs and desires and redistributing the wealth to places that need it is one of the most selfless things you can possibly do.
Whilst you are fighting just to survive and pay the bills, you do not have the capacity to help anyone, nor should you have to. But by releasing yourself from the programming that has created this vicious cycle of financial imprisonment for you, you are free to help put money and time toward some of the thousands of causes for people, animals and the planet that desperately need our care, attention and money right now.
In other words, the people and animals of the world, and the planet itself, need you to be wealthy. Even by just being able to easily meet your basic needs, your energy will be freed up to think more about how you can help others.
Being wealthy is not a luxury, it is a responsibility to yourself, to the people you love, to the global community and to our planet. It’s time to break free of whatever is holding you back from living a life of passion, purpose and freedom and realize your goals and dreams, and help inspire a global revolution of wealth, health and freedom for everybody who lives on this planet.
Just register for the 6 free EFT videos on the right hand side of this page and create a life of purpose, passion and freedom!
There is an age old conflict about money and spiritually being mutually exclusive. A belief that if you wish to be a spiritual being that you must renounce all material wealth and possessions because you can’t have both.
This is an unfortunate lie that so many of us have bought into and has created suffering for hundreds of millions of people throughout the ages.
Do you have this conflicting belief system? Would you like to let it go and know that you can HAVE IT ALL?
The truth is, whilst you are struggling for survival, your focus is going to be on physical needs, not personal and spiritual growth, and the more financial freedom you have, the more time and money you will be able to spend on being a spiritual person.
So, far from being mutually exclusive, money and spirituality are mutually beneficial.
So, if you would like to let go of this belief system, I have an EFT Tapping sequence below to help you to break free of this destructive paradigm and live a life of spirituality AND financial freedom.
Firstly rate the statement “I can’t be spiritual and wealthy” on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it is not true for you at all and 10 being it is absolutely 100% true for you.
Set Up Phrase – Karate Chop Point:
Even though I don’t believe I can be spiritual and wealthy, because you can’t have both, I deeply and completely love and accept who I am and what I believe.
Even though I don’t believe it’s possible for me to be wealthy and be spiritual at the same time, because they are mutually exclusive, I profoundly love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I’m convinced that it’s not possible to be both spiritual and have lots of money, because they are polar opposites, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
Eyebrow Point: If I want to be spiritual I can’t be wealthy
Outside Eye: That’s the way it’s always been
Under Eye: It’s not possible to be both spiritual and wealthy
Under Nose: To be spiritual, I have to let go of all material wants and needs
Chin: Everybody knows that’s just the way it is
Collar Bone: If you are wealthy, you can’t be truly spiritual
Under Arm: Because money blocks spirituality
Top of Head: All spiritual leaders renounce material wealth
Eyebrow Point: It’s not possible to have it all
Outside Eye: And be spiritual and wealthy
Under Eye: Their energies are completely different
Under Nose: They are in direct conflict with each other
Chin: I would rather be spiritual than wealthy
Collar Bone: Because I know I can’t have both
Under Arm: So I refuse to be wealthy
Top of Head: Because being spiritual is the superior choice and I can’t be both spiritual and wealthy.
Take a breath and rate that statement: “I can’t be spiritual and wealthy”.
And start another round of tapping:
Eyebrow Point: Money and spirituality can’t co-exist
Outside Eye: And there is no question that I must choose spirituality over money
Under Eye: Because that’s the obvious choice
Under Nose: I would never choose money over spirituality
Chin: That would be the greedy and selfish choice
Collar Bone: And I would never want to be greedy and selfish
Under Arm: So I choose to be spiritual over wealthy
Top of Head: Because I can’t have both
Eyebrow Point: Money and spirituality are in complete conflict with each other
Outside Eye: So I refuse to be wealthy
Under Eye: Because no sane, kind, compassionate person would ever choose money over spirituality
Under Nose: It’s not possible to have money and be spiritual
Chin: At least that’s what I’ve been led to believe all my life
Collar Bone: And it must be true because there are no spiritual, wealthy people in the world
Under Arm: Truly spiritual people are financially destitute
Top of Head: So I choose to renounce all my financial wants so I can focus on being spiritual
Take a breath and rate that statement: “I can’t be spiritual and wealthy”.
Positive Tapping Round:
Even though I’ve always believed it’s not possible to be spiritual & wealthy, I choose to be open to a new possibility
Even though I’ve always thought money and spirituality are in conflict with each other, I’m ready to let go of that old belief system.
Even though I still have this conflict about money & spirituality, I’m ready to embrace a new paradigm that they can co-exist.
Eyebrow Point: I’ve always believed money & spirituality are a conflict of interest.
Outside Eye: But what if I’ve been wrong all along?
Under Eye: What if they can actually compliment each other?
Under Nose: It makes sense that when I have more money I’ll have more freedom to be more spiritual
Chin: I’ve believed this lie for way too long
Collar Bone: And I’m ready to release myself from it now
Under Arm: And embrace a new paradigm that I can be spiritual and wealthy
Top of Head: It’s very liberating knowing I can be spiritual and wealthy
Eyebrow Point: In fact when I’m wealthy, I’ll have more time and money to be more spiritual
Outside Eye: It really makes sense that it is possible to be both spiritual and wealthy
Under Eye: I love knowing I really can have it all
Under Nose: I don’t know who taught me that you can’t
Chin: But I love letting go of that lie
Collar Bone: And knowing that I can be spiritual and wealthy
Under Arm: I love knowing they can co-exist and even compliment each other
Top of Head: I am excited about being wealthy and spiritual at the same time.
Eyebrow Point: I feel so free and liberated
Outside Eye: I love letting go of the old lie
Under Eye: And embracing the new belief that works for me
Under Nose: That I can be spiritual and wealthy
Chin: I love knowing I can have it all
Collar Bone: This opens up all sorts of possibilities
Under Arm: And means I am free to be massively wealthy
Top of Head: I feel so liberated knowing I can be spiritual and wealthy at the same time
And take a breath and rate that statement “I can’t be spiritual and wealthy”
If you still have some of that belief then try and think about where you heard it or learned it from in the first place and tap on that and explore other belief systems for you around the same issue. And if you would like more EFT Tapping sequences register on the top right hand side of this blog for a free 6 part EFT and Sound Healing Series on Money and Success.
Take care and Happy Tapping!
I spend a lot of time writing and talking about the subconscious and how it controls 96 to 98 percent of our results. This is because once you learn how to change this programming, and are committed to working at it consistently, your results will change so dramatically, it is like night and day. First you will find your behaviour changing and you will be aware of more opportunities coming into your life. You will take action that is congruent with achieving your goal and people and resources will turn up in your life like magic.
Hence the saying, ‘Get out of your own way’. You are the only person who is in charge of your results. Once you realise this and become aware of the behaviour and habits that aren’t serving you and are keeping you stuck, then you will really begin to move ahead in leaps and bounds.
This takes discipline and a willingness to do the things ninety-five percent of people won’t do so you can have what ninety-five percent of people will never have. And, unless you have an instant enlightenment experience like Byron Katy or Eckhart Tolle, this is a journey that takes time and dedication, it will not happen overnight. I’m not saying you have to meditate for 10 hours every day for the next 50 years to finally get it. We live in extraordinary times and we have the opportunity to shift our awareness incredibly quickly if we choose. However, it will take some effort on your part.
Why are willing to spend time, money and effort to avoid our feelings and ultimately perpetuate our pain, such as unhealthy levels of addictions to things like television, the latest technological toys and games, alcohol, sport, work, legal and illicit drugs, but the opportunity to spend 30 minutes a day healing and discovering our potential comes last, if at all?
Why haven’t we been taught to embrace all of our feelings, especially the uncomfortable ones, so we can discover the truth behind them so they lose their power over us? We give our power away to our fear, anger, grief, sadness, frustration, etc when we refuse to feel them fully and discover the truth within these feelings. We take our power back when we choose to experience every aspect our beautiful existence and feel everything fully. We become awakened in that moment and all of a sudden those uncomfortable feelings are seen for what they are: merely responses to a belief system or perception about our world or ourselves.
Feelings have no life of their own, they only exist because of your response to a particular situation. And where one person might thrive on the adrenalin and excitement of performing in front of a crowd of 10,000 people, somebody else might prefer to die than take the risk of humiliation and rejection. Of course, if that latter is you, then public speaking might not be your chosen vehicle for making your dreams come true, at least not this right this minute.
Once you become a master of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, you become a conscious creator. Suddenly you have the ability to choose appropriate responses in every situation of your life instead of being at the mercy of your emotions.
Have you ever been in the middle of an argument and suddenly you have the thought ‘Why am I so angry and why am I taking it out on this person’? I certainly have, and the more aware you become, the more this occurs, until you are able to actually stop the unconscious response before it occurs. It is not the event itself that defines it’s meaning in our lives, but our response to it. And rarely, if ever, is it the particular circumstance that is the cause of our response. The event is merely a trigger which activates an automatic response within us, depending on previous experience and belief systems, formed usually in the first 6 years of our lives.
For example, a person who has had a history of betrayal or abandonment in their life, may feel particularly jealous if their partner is looking at someone of the opposite sex in, what they determine, is an inappropriate manner. Even if the other person is the most loyal and devoted person on the planet and has never shown any signs of betrayal, they respond from what they expect to occur. Because they have been betrayed or abandoned previously, they are expecting their partner to do the same and they perceive their over eager appreciation of another person as a betrayal, even though they have done nothing wrong.
We are all human, and just because we devote our lives to one person does not mean we automatically become robots incapable of appreciating the beautiful form of another human being. In fact this is perfectly healthy behaviour. What is not healthy is the over reaction of the person who immediately goes into fear of being betrayed, and angrily accuses the admirer of being unfaithful.
This is how our subconscious works. It looks for situations to prove our programming right. So we look for situations and events that will substantiate our model of the world. If we believe we don’t deserve to succeed, or it’s not safe to be successful, we will draw to us events and circumstances, and behave in ways that substantiate those beliefs and sabotage our success. And there may be hundreds or even thousands of those negative beliefs lurking in your subconscious, quietly working away and keeping you bound within your self imposed limitations.
It is your job to disentangle yourself from these belief systems and disable them so they don’t sabotage your success. This is why energy psychology and vibrational healing techniques are now becoming so popular, because they have the ability to quickly eliminate these beliefs so we can form new ones.
You need to be dedicated though, because your subconscious has formed these belief systems in an attempt to protect you and keep you safe. It is not likely to just show you what they are so you can get rid of them. You need to outsmart your subconscious and engage it to be your assistant in this process rather than your enemy.
And your emotions are your greatest ally in this quest. Become aware of your feelings in every moment and you will quickly discover what fears and beliefs you are holding onto that are stopping you from being the best you can be and living the life of your dreams.
I have found this is a fascination journey of discovery and, though difficult at times, highly rewarding. And the greatest reward is success. Following is an EFT Sequence to help you to get out of your own way.
Karate Chop Point
Even though I am my own worst enemy, I deeply and completely accept all of me
Even though I am responsible for all of my results in life, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I have been the one holding myself back and stopping myself from succeeding, I deeply and profoundly love and accept all of me.
Inside Eye: I’ve been sabotaging myself all this time
Outside Eye: I should have known
Under Eye: I’ve allowed my emotions and belief systems to control my life
Under Nose: I feel powerless to take control of my life and realize my dreams
Chin: I should have known better
Collar Bone: I’m afraid to realize my true potential
Under Arm: I have all this conflict about success
Top of Head: I’m afraid to step out of my comfort zone
Inside Eye: It doesn’t feel safe
Outside Eye: What if it doesn’t work out?
Under eye: I’m afraid I’ll be disappointed
Under Nose: Actually, I’m afraid I’ll fail
Chin: I have all these negative beliefs about becoming successful
Collar Bone: It doesn’t feel safe to succeed
Under Arm: I don’t believe I deserve to succeed
Top of Head: I have all this conflict about success, no wonder I can’t realize my goals and dreams
Even though I still have this conflict about success, I’m ready to transform and transcend all negative belief systems that are preventing me from realizing my goals and dreams.
Even though I’ve been sabotaging myself all along, I’m ready to get out of my own way and do whatever it takes.
Even though I’m responsible for where I am right now, I choose to forgive myself and get on the fast track to success and wealth.
Inside Eye: I’ve been sabotaging myself all along
Outside Eye: And now I’m willing to do whatever it takes to succeed
Under Eye: Even if I have to get out of my own road, it will be worth it
Under Nose: I choose to take my power back and feel strong
Chin: I choose to transform and transcend all my negative belief systems about wealth and success
Collar Bone: I’m ready to release all my negative belief systems about wealth and success
Under Arm: Even if it means I have to feel uncomfortable for a while
Top of Head: I choose to know I have everything within me that I need to succeed
Inside Eye: I’m armed and dangerous and I’m not afraid to use it
Outside Eye: I’ve been holding myself back all along
Under Eye: And it’s time for me to break free and charge toward success
Under Nose: I choose to release myself from all old limiting beliefs that don’t serve me
Chin: I live in the truth that I have whatever it takes to have what I want
Collar Bone: I love knowing I have everything I need to succeed within me
Under Arm: I choose to know I do deserve wealth and success
Top of Head: And I love knowing I have everything within me I need to succeed and be wealthy
How are your finances right now? Do you have the freedom to do everything you want and more? If not, then the reason is not the global economy. It’s not your families’ fault. It’s not your employers’ fault. It’s nobodies fault, not even yours, but it is your responsibility to change it.
Your personal economy is not at the mercy of any outside influence, and you have the ability to thrive under any economic conditions. More fortunes are made during times of depression than any other for those who put themselves in a position to take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves.
It depends on your subconscious programming, whether you believe it’s safe and right for you to succeed and whether your belief systems (BS) support that you deserve to succeed. But if you have any belief that there isn’t enough, that your not good enough, that something bad will happen if you succeed, that you don’t deserve success or wealth, that money is evil, that only criminals get rich, rich people are greedy / arrogant / uncaring or some other negative belief system, then your subconscious will never allow you to be wealthy or successful.
And unless your BS’s support you being wealthy and successful, you are living your life based on lies. You deserve to have everything you wish for and so much more. And the following EFT sequence will give you a big boost in the right direction.
There are hundreds, even thousands of reasons that you might subconsciously sabotage your success and it all stems back to your childhood and your ancestors belief systems around money and success as well as your experiences as you grew up. It’s impossible to get to the root of all your belief systems in one session. It is your responsibility to be consistent at uncovering what is holding you back. But the following EFT tapping sequence will help to shift your vibration and start the ball rolling and, if you use it often, you will find your belief systems coming up to show you what you need to clear in order to be successful and wealthy beyond your wildest dreams.
If you aren’t familiar with EFT Tapping then please visit my website www.healingandabundance.com where you can access a tutorial teaching you this simple yet powerful transformational technique.
Firstly, repeat the statement “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams”. Now rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could be for you.
And now follow this tapping sequence.
Karate Chop Point:
Even though I don’t believe I deserve to be wealthy and successful, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I keep sabotaging my financial freedom, I choose to love and accept myself and believe that I do deserve better.
Even though money and life is always a struggle for me and I don’t know how to change it, I choose to love and accept all of me.
Eyebrow: Money is always a struggle for me.
Outside Eye: My family has always worked hard for money
Under Eye: And we could never get ahead
Under Nose: That’s just the way it is for us
Chin: We’re good, honest, hard working people
Collar Bone: And honest people never get ahead
Under Arm: That’s just the truth about life and money
Top of Head: All wealthy people are greedy and waste money on frivolous things
Eyebrow: And I would never like to be like them
Outside Eye: So I never want to be wealthy
Under Eye: It’s not right that I should be wealthy when so many other people, including my family never have enough
Under Nose: Because the truth is, there is not enough to go round
Chin: If I have more, somebody else has less, and I couldn’t live with that
Collar Bone: Besides, money can’t buy happiness, that’s what my family taught me
Under Arm: I should be satisfied with what I’ve got
Top of Head: Besides, it’s safe where I am, even if I am struggling
Eyebrow: I won’t know who I am if I’m wealthy and successful
Outside Eye: And my life will change completely, and I couldn’t have that
Under Eye: I’m better of just struggling and working hard
Under Nose: My family showed me that that’s they way it’s supposed to be for us
Chin: And I don’t want to betray my family and friends
Collar Bone: What will they think of me?
Under Arm: What if they don’t like me anymore?
Top of Head: No, it’s definitely not safe for me to be wealthy and successful, so I’m going to stay right where I am
Take a slow, deep breath and again repeat the phrase “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams”. Rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10. The number should have improved at least a little bit.
Now it’s up to you to do some more in depth inquiry into why you aren’t wealthy and why you feel you don’t deserve to be. Have a look over the previous tapping phrases again and pull out the ones that are most true for you. I have covered a whole range of different belief systems there, but there are hundreds of others that may also pertain to you.
How do you feel about deserving to be wealthy? Life being a struggle? Being able to be frivolous with money? And think about why you would feel that you are undeserving? Think back to when you were about 5 or 6. How did your parents interact about money? Were they constantly working, struggling, stressing out and never getting ahead? Were there arguments about money? What did they think about rich, successful people? How would they react if you walked in the house being really wealthy and successful, driving an expensive sports car and wearing expensive clothing / jewellery? How would your friends react?
Are you starting to see where our subconscious could be a web of belief systems all intertwined that keep you stuck in your current reality?
So, once you’ve explored what’s holding you back and tapped until you have the rating around the phrase “I deserve to be financially wealthy beyond my wildest dreams” up to at least an 8, try the positive tapping round below and notice how different you feel.
Karate Chop Point:
Even though I still have this feeling that money has to be a struggle, I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Even though I have been holding myself back from being financially free, I deeply and completely accept myself and am open to new possibilities to attract more money into my life.
Even though I’m still holding onto these belief systems that are preventing me from being financially wealthy, I choose to believe there are hundreds of ways money could come to me and be open to receiving it.
Eyebrow: I choose to believe that I deserve to be financially wealthy
Outside Eye: I choose to know that there are hundreds of ways money could come to me
Under Eye: I choose to give myself permission to be massively wealthy
Under Nose: I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Chin: I choose to believe in every fibre and cell of my being that it is safe for me to be wealthy and successful
Collar Bone: I choose to release myself from worrying about what others are going to think about me
Under Arm: I love being financially free and being able to be frivolous with money
Top of Head: I choose to release myself from all the anxiety and stress around my money
Eyebrow: I am so grateful for all the opportunities coming to me to help me receive more money
Outside Eye: I choose to give myself permission to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams.
Under Eye: I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve success and financial wealth
Under Nose: I love the thought of having more money than I could ever need
Chin: I love thinking of all the good things I will do and people I will help when I have more money than I could ever need
Collar Bone: I choose to release myself from all the negative belief systems that have held me back from money and success now
Under Arm: I am even feeling excited about what the future holds for me financially.
Top of Head: I love knowing that I deserve to be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams and that it is safe for me to receive lots and lots of money.
If you want to see real lasting results, you will need to keep tapping on the various belief systems that you see coming up, including these ones consistently. And if you do, you will quite quickly see your life and your wealth transform and magic will happen.
Do you ever feel like you’re on a never ending Ferris Wheel with an exhausting revolution of eat, sleep, work and stress, trying to keep with the endless list of ‘have to’s’ and trying to meet everybody elses’ expectations? Do you feel overwhelmed by responsibility? What ever happened to actually living? Having some ‘you’ time? Fun? Laughter? How long ago was it that you really got to relax and have fun?
If you feel like this, then you are not alone. Most of the population feel trapped on this endless monotonous spinning wheel, often not knowing how they even got there, let alone how they’re ever going to get off.
Societies expectations drive us to outcomes that may not actually be what we really want, but by default we have been led to believe that being part of the ‘norm’ will make us happy. How many people do you know who are living the ‘norm’ who are truly happy and satisfied with their lives? If you can name one person, I will congratulate you.
In my experience, it is only those people who have the courage to jump off that spinning Ferris Wheel and go against societies expectations who ever really get the opportunity to realize fulfilment and lasting happiness. I’m not about to tell you it will be a soft landing if you do decide to jump either. However, there is no challenge that you cannot overcome, the trick is to believe that you deserve to be happy, successful and fulfilled doing whatever it is that you want to do.
So today I am sharing with you a new EFT tapping sequence to help you to develop that belief within yourself. You see, the moment you believe you deserve to have fun, you will naturally allow yourself to have more fun and more situations will eventuate that will be naturally enjoyable. You will also find that many of those situations that you previously found mundane or even frustration, you will start to enjoy more and smile more at the little annoyances that crop up. Yes, it is possible to genuinely smile in the face of frustration and irritation. It’s called lightening up and not taking everything so seriously.
If you aren’t familiar with EFT Tapping then please visit my website www.healingandabundance.com where you will can access a tutorial teaching you this simple yet powerful transformational technique.
Firstly, repeat the statement “I deserve to relax and enjoy myself and have fun”. Now rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being it’s not true at all and 10 being the most true it could be for you.
And now follow this tapping sequence.
Karate Chop Point:
Even though I never have any time to relax and have fun, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I am overwhelmed with responsibilities and never have time to enjoy myself, I choose to love and accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though my life is too stressful and there is no way I could possible find time to have any fun, I choose to love and accept myself anyway.
Eyebrow: I have too much to do and not enough time.
Outside Eye: My life is so full of responsibility & stuff to do
Under Eye: I never have any time to have fun
Under Nose: There’s no way I could ever possibly enjoy myself
Chin: I don’t deserve to have fun, I have too much to do.
Collar Bone: It would be so nice to just relax and have a laugh
Under Arm: But I don’t have any time for that
Top of Head: There’s always too much to do and never enough time
Eyebrow: I’m so tired of all this responsibility and stress
Outside Eye: When did my life become so busy?
Under Eye: I didn’t expect life to be this complicated.
Under Nose: I don’t even remember when it stopped being fun.
Chin: I would really like to relax and really enjoy life more
Collar Bone: When to I get to actually LIVE?
Under Arm: I feel so overwhelmed with responsibility
Top of Head: And there’s never enough time for me to relax and really let my hair down.
Eyebrow: Life is just too busy and that’s the way it’s supposed to be
Outside Eye: At least, that’s what I learnt when I was a child
Under Eye: Life is supposed to be a struggle with no time for fun
Under Nose: And I don’t deserve to actually enjoy myself
Chin: It would be so nice to just be able to relax and let go for a change
Collar Bone: But that’s never going to happen for me
Under Arm: I have too much to do and never enough time
Top of Head: Life is supposed to be a struggle, and I know because I’ve proved it over and over, and I’m still proving it!
Take a slow, deep breath and again repeat the phrase “I deserve to relax and enjoy myself and have fun”. Rate how true that statement feels for you on a scale of 0 to 10. The number should have improved at least a little bit.
Now do some more in depth inquiry into why you don’t have fun and why you feel you don’t deserve to. Have a look over the previous tapping phrases again and pull out the ones that are most true for you. How do you feel about deserving to have fun? Life being a struggle? Being able to relax? And think about why you would feel that you are undeserving? How did your parents feel about having fun? Were they constantly working, struggling, stressing out and never having fun? How did they respond when you were having fun?
If you aren’t having fun in your life then you have a program in your subconscious that says it’s not safe, or you don’t deserve to, or it’s not right, etc. And whatever it is, IT’S A LIE! Your task is to uncover the belief around this that is stopping you from having fun and dissolve it. Just think if the whole world was having more fun what a different place it would be.
So, once you have gotten the rating around the phrase “I deserve relax and enjoy myself and have fun” up to at least an 8, try the positive tapping round below and notice how different you feel.
Karate Chop Point:
Even though I don’t give myself permission to have fun, I choose to know in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to relax and enjoy myself.
Even though I have all these responsibilities and no time for fun, I deeply and completely accept myself and am open to enjoying my life more and having more fun.
Even though I’ve not allowed myself to have fun for years, I choose to open up to having more time to be frivolous and enjoy my life from this point on.
Eyebrow: I choose to believe that I deserve to relax and have fun
Outside Eye: I choose to trust that everything is working out perfectly and I don’t have to worry so much anymore.
Under Eye: I choose to give myself permission to relax and have more fun.
Under Nose: I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to have more fun and freedom in my life.
Chin: I choose to believe in every fibre and cell of my being that I deserve to have more time for me to have more joy.
Collar Bone: I love having fun with family and friends
Under Arm: I love to laugh
Top of Head: I choose to release myself from all the anxiety and seriousness around my responsibilities.
Eyebrow: I love lightening up and being amused by the situations I find myself in.
Outside Eye: I love knowing that the more I release my anxiety, the better I am at finding solutions to challenges.
Under Eye: I choose to believe in my physical being and my etheric being that I deserve to have more fun and freedom in my life
Under Nose: I give myself permission to enjoy my life in all ways and have more fun.
Chin: I choose to stop taking life so seriously and to see the light side of everything
Collar Bone: I love finding more opportunities to relax and enjoy myself with friends and family
Under Arm: I already feel lighter and brighter about my future
Top of Head: I love knowing that I deserve to relax and have fun and enjoy all areas of my life.
Just because you see the lighter side of life doesn’t mean you will abandon your responsibilities, however you will find you are more creative and less likely to get overwhelmed with stress and anxiety about various aspects of your day to day responsibilities. To be honest, most of what we worry about either never eventuates or is not nearly as desperate as we imagine.
And remember, if you want to see real lasting results, you will need to keep tapping on various belief systems, including these ones consistently. And if you do, you will quite quickly see your life transform and magic will happen.